tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19448333866485902052024-03-13T10:50:12.863-04:00Married Working Mothers...creating a strong, supportive community for womenMWMshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14170186430847327401noreply@blogger.comBlogger266125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1944833386648590205.post-617390550284194422017-11-30T16:17:00.000-05:002017-11-30T16:17:17.112-05:00Let The Journey Begin!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<br />MWMshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14170186430847327401noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1944833386648590205.post-63313541965848340252016-06-30T18:56:00.004-04:002016-06-30T18:56:40.780-04:00IT AIN'T ABOUT THE "USED TO" CHICK<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I saw this post on Facebook...</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">So, help me figure this one out. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">1. Is she saying he <i>USED TO</i> Direct Message (DM) the 'chick' before they met?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">2. Is she saying he <i>USED TO</i> DM the 'chick' DURING their relationship but BEFORE they got married?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">3. Why is the 'chick' all dressed up? Is she a bridesmaid or something? A wedding guest maybe?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">My immediate thought upon seeing this was, why are we focused on the 'used to' chick? And why is the language directed at her so negative & nasty? </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">What about the possible not so "used to" man?</span></blockquote>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">No where in the caption was anything said about the man's behaviour! </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">As women, why do we continue to focus on the other woman? Completely turning a blind eye on him and his behaviour.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Let's go through the above options...</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">If #1 was the case, then there is no reason for you to say a thing. We have all been there. We are ALL someone's ex. And for whatever reason, you both didn't work out and so you both became that someone that she/he didn't go further with. Whether one of you felt salty about it or not.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">On to Option #2, So this dude was dealing with said "used to" chick for who knows how long but now you're happy because he chose you to be his wife? Where was she during the courtship? Who allowed this kind of interference to occur? The 'used to' chick? My guess is, it wasn't entirely her doing. He had to allow it, did he not? That speaks volumes to his character, not only the way he treated the 'chick' but also the way he treated YOU. What makes you think it will stop once you're married?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">And #3, is she your friend??? Why is she at the wedding??? Who invited her? You? Or him? That's just cruel either way.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">This is the kind of man you're proud to be with? I'm just saying.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Why do we come up with things like this to continue the competition between women? The constant competition for a man. I'm not naive, I know a certain level of healthy competition exists for very primal basic reasons. However, if someone can easily be pulled away from you then maybe there are some deeper matters to be discussed between the two of you. No need to then tear down other women in the process. <i>(yes I am aware that these women play a role and ought to accept responsibility but certainly not all, not while you go marry or stay with the man she's been doing these things with, and yes I am aware that crazy and ratchet people exist.) </i>Encourage better, but not in an insulting way. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Little girls for centuries have been taught to aspire to marriage. Not little boys. We are raised and groomed to be the perfect little wife. Meanwhile, boys can sow their royal oats. When we find that ONE man to share the rest of our lives with it's seen as an accomplishment. If we don't, something is wrong with us. Is that our main goal in life? Does the bride think she won at something?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Marriage (in it's current form) doesn't guarantee a damn thing. The divorce rate is approximately 50%. You know at least one couple on the brink, you know one couple that is miserable, you know one couple that don't know what the hell they're doing, you know a couple who there but ain really there, you know one couple faking it, you know one couple where the husband 'sweethearting', and you know another couple where BOTH dealing with side action.</span><br />
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<br />MWMshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14170186430847327401noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1944833386648590205.post-61439257734892298772016-06-23T16:19:00.001-04:002016-06-23T16:19:33.308-04:00What happened to 'NO JOCKEY DAY'?<br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Were any of you aware that yesterday, June 22, was "No Panty" Day?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Well listen don't feel bad, I forgot too. I knew such a day existed but I have never committed the day to memory.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">If you had to be reminded about the day, there is a strong possibility you were reminded by a male. Doesn't matter who the male is really. Nonetheless, it was a male. My hubby reminded me, so there you go!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">My question is, when will there be a "NO JOCKEY" Day????</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">When will we see some doggie slingin'? </span><br />
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<i><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">"<u>Doggie</u>" (n</span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">oun) - Bahamian slang for male genitals</span></i></blockquote>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Question is, do we really want to see loose flaccid penises??? Is that even attractive? </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Think about it,</span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"> a bouncin', bobbin' doggie. (I literally busted out laughing as I typed that) </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Come to think about it, it really isn't all that desirable is it? Not like it is for a man knowing that under your clothes there is an exposed vagina. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Now, why do you think that is?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Is it a form of appreciation? Appreciation of the woman's physical traits? </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">My guess is that it is natural for men to be energetically drawn to our bodies. For one very obvious reason. Procreation.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">It's so much deeper than that. My thoughts are that there is a fine line between appreciation (because what woman doesn't want her body appreciated???) and objectification. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Women objectify men as well but that's not what this here post is about. :)</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">When a woman's body part is singled out and separated from her as a person and is viewed as an object of the male's desire then we have crossed the line.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">We all know that this behaviour can have adverse affects on women. According to the study, "Sexual Objectification of Women: Advances to Theory and Research" by Dawn M. Szymanski, Lauren B. Moffitt, and Erika R. Carr, </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">this</span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"> kind of objectification can lead to self-objectification for women causing all sorts of mental health issues. Issues like, increased anxiety about their own physical appearance and opportunities for body shame.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">That's NOT cool.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">So men (and women), take heed. Ain't nothin' wrong with a little appreciation but let's keep it at that. Women aren't here for YOUR enjoyment. Period. But who knows, maybe one day we will get to the point where flaccid dick slingin' is sexy. My second guess is, maybe not. LOL.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Sincerely, </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Where is #NoJockeyDay</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Candilaria </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><br /></span>MWMshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14170186430847327401noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1944833386648590205.post-17235551566009678602016-06-16T20:56:00.003-04:002016-06-16T20:56:46.920-04:00Don't be THAT parent<br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Picture it, </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">You and your family are enjoying your hard earned vacation at <i>the</i> funnest place in the world (for a child). You are relaxing and soaking in the moment. Your 2 year old child is playing innocently near the shoreline, when you hear a loud splashing noise and next thing you know you are witnessing him being captured by a 7 foot alligator and being violently dragged into the water...and just like that he's gone.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">YOU fought with your everything to save him from the jaws of this animal. It wasn't enough. YOU watched helplessly. YOU experienced this. YOU are immediately achingly distraught and thoughts of HOW YOU could have let this happen to your child are overwhelming.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">There is NO recovery to not only what you've just witnessed, and forever scarred with emotions you will have to endure for the REST OF YOUR LIFE.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Picture it....Picture it as if it were YOUR child. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">You can't. You try to, but you quickly bring yourself back to reality and are relieved that it WAS NOT your child.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Matt and Melissa Graves DO NOT have that option.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">So <b>STOP</b>.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">JUST STOP with the UNNECESSARY negative commentary...STOP with the...</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">"If it were me's", </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">"I NEVER take my eyes of my child",</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">"I ALWAYS make sure I..."</span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"> </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">"Why would they allow the child to go in the water...", </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">"Why would they not be near the child..."</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">"Didn't the sign say 'NO SWIMMING'" </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Off the heels of the Harambe incident at the Cincinnati Zoo, some of the commentary I've seen and read on this matter is yet again ridiculous.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><b>HAVE WE NOT LEARNED TO <span style="font-size: large;"><i>NOT</i> TO BE THAT PARENT??</span></b></span></blockquote>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Why do we continue to judge OTHER parents and THEIR parenting skills? As if we are the PERFECT parent. </span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">The words 'always' and 'never' are two of the most dangerous words you can utter when speaking on a subject you've never experienced. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">It was a tragic, freak accident. End of Story.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">I lost my daughter in Disney World. By no means am I comparing the two. I am sharing the fact that for someone as neurotic as me about watching my children, I LOST MY OWN CHILD. The greatest fear I had before we embarked on our family trip came true. Despite taking ALL the safety precautions and chats with the children, it happened. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Shit happens. And NO ONE is immune to ANYTHING.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">So Let's STOP.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Unless there is a situation where the parent(s) have been grossly negligent, let's ease up please.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Being a parent is the hardest thing a human being can take on. We are there to protect our offspring until they are able to be take care of themselves and be on their own. That's it! As basic at that seems we are here to love and protect them. It's hard enough on a daily basis, but even worse when you are being ridiculed by the world for your unintentional actions or lack thereof.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">The support for the family has been tremendous. Let's keep supporting them. They have suffered a devastating loss. There are no words for this situation but no words spoken ought to be negative.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">My deepest condolences to the Graves family on the lost of their baby boy, Lane Graves. There are no words. Our thoughts are with you during this tremendously difficult time.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Signed, </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">#NotAPerfectParent </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Candilaria</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><br /></span>MWMshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14170186430847327401noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1944833386648590205.post-31529453949262697642016-06-09T16:24:00.003-04:002016-06-09T16:24:46.265-04:00Dear Woman on the Front Page of the Newspaper<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Dear Woman on the Front Page of the Newspaper Jumping for Joy, </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">I promised I wouldn't say anything else about the Referendum held on Tuesday. Welp! I couldn't think of what else I would write on our <span style="font-size: large;">MARRIED WORKING MOTHERS</span> blog. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">The Bahamian people voted loud and clear...</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">While, I wasn't surprised by the outcome mainly because of the loud and incessant fear ripping through the island like a damn Tsunami, I was however, profoundly disappointed. That disappointment turned into anger yesterday when I laid my eyes on the woman on the front page of the newspaper. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">There you were, a woman. <b>A WOMAN</b>! With her hands in the air rejoicing. (I don't mean to pick on this particular woman as I do not know her but unfortunately, she is who the newspaper chose to place on their cover.)</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">You can't be fucking serious.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">What exactly are you rejoicing for? What victory do you think you've just won? </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Let's see...Is it because...</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">1. Your Pastor is the real MVP?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">2. You don't trust the existing Government and you stuck it to them good?!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">3. "Da foriegners ain coming to take over no more?!"</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">4. You wanted to spite the Government for 2002's Referendum AND the Gaming Referendum?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">5. We ain ga be like them other hedonistic countries like the big bad US of A?!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">6. Ain no Sissy marriage 'round here?!"</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">7. "Dey call me dumb and stupid, so I ga show dem?"</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">or</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">8. Maybe you really believe women ought to be less equal than men. Maybe?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Some NO voters had excuses coming from every angle and some others felt they didn't need to give a reason.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Well, I voted YES, to every single bill. My reason was simple. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><b>Women and men ought to enjoy the same rights. Done. Basic Human Rights 101.</b></span></blockquote>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">How was I able to come up with that you ask? I isolated these bills for what they were. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">I handled this referendum for what it was and it was NOT A GENERAL FUCKING ELECTION!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">The pettiness and spitefulness that spread across our islands were vile and disgusting. Do I trust or care for this current administration? Hell No. Do I think we are a sinking ship because of the lack of leadership? Hell Yeah. Is there accountability and transparency? Hell fucking No. Are these politicians doing pure shit? Ya damn right!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">But. What. Does. That. Have. To. Do. With. My. Rights. As. A. Woman. Or. Man?! </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Not a gad damn thing!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">So, ok, you don't understand Bill No. 4. I understand that you don't understand. Hopefully, you sought information and advice on the particular bill and if you still decided you were unsure about it then by all means vote No. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">But what happened to Bills 1, 2, and 3???? Yes, I deserve a reason for your NO Vote because it affects me and my family. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Why are we so petrified of change? Change isn't a bad thing. Change is inevitable. Change WILL happen whether you are ready for it or not.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">I am angry today. Democracy DID NOT win. Fear, Ignorance, & Politics won on Tuesday.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">I am not a proud Bahamian. There is NOTHING to be proud of and it makes me sad.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">We have to change the direction this country is going in. Fast. To do that now, we MUST focus our attention on our children. We need to inject more of our love, time, and resources into them. Really TEACH & GUIDE them! <b>EDUCATION</b> is where it's at. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><b>We must raise stable, loving, and critical thinking children to save our Bahamaland. They are the real investment.</b></span></blockquote>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">That's all we can hope for at this point.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Signed, </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">#INeedToFindHopeAgain</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Candilaria</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><br /></span>MWMshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14170186430847327401noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1944833386648590205.post-585491261869828592016-06-07T19:28:00.000-04:002016-06-07T19:28:09.388-04:00I Did It for Me!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I confess, today was not the first time used my right to </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">vote.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"> But today was the first time I voted for something which felt </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I voted for the two little hands you see above. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">One hand belongs to my son. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">One hand belongs to my daughter. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">May they have an ability to make <span style="font-size: x-large;">the exact same choice</span> and <span style="font-size: x-large;">be treated equally</span>. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Period. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">That's it! </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Until I vote again,</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Tiffany</span></div>
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<br />MWMshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14170186430847327401noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1944833386648590205.post-19040022763106805412016-06-03T09:31:00.002-04:002016-06-03T09:31:49.487-04:00Chance Encounters<br />
<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">I love running into the right people at the right time, don't you?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">However and wherever you run into them, it was exactly what you needed.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">That happened to me yesterday.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">I ran into a friend (whom I connected with through Married Working Mothers btw), and we chatted for a few minutes to catch up on what's been happening in our lives. We've been meaning to get together for lunch but somehow we both seemed too busy "hustlin". But we were placed in each other's path yesterday, to motivate each other.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">These past couple of months have been difficult for me, financially. Trying to build something from scratch isn't easy. And self-motivation is required DAILY, whether you want to show up or not. </span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">While talking to my friend, we realized how much our lives paralleled each other and agreed that our brief meeting was exactly what we both needed. It reminded us that we weren't alone or crazy, and how important it is to have people that are doing what you're doing (whatever it is) around you.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">I continue to receive the comments about going back to a nine to five. Why would I torture myself without a steady pay? My answer to that is, </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Because I feel strongly in what I'm doing. And I love it. </span><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">I believe in it. I believe in myself. </span></blockquote>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">For those that are in the very same position or soon to be,</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Here's a quick story...</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><i>I've always been into fitness and clean eating. I am pretty consistent when it comes to exercising and what I eat. However, at the end of March I set my eyes on a goal of what I wanted my body to look like. With that in mind, I knew I had to amp up on the amount of days I exercised and be more strict with my diet (for those who know me are probably rolling their eyes, because how much more strict can Candi get!). So that's what I did. I began exercising 5 days a week. Something I have never done in my entire life (I used to exercise 2-3 times a week).</i></span></blockquote>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">I live for this weekend every year. Every year I always have a great plan to get dressed up and go to a five star restaurant for an expensive multi course dinner alone, yes alone!!! But each year it never happens. Every year I always have a great plan to finish reading a novel. But each year it never happens. Every year I always have a great plan to go out dancing and stay out until dawn. But each year it never happens.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana";">What happens? You guessed it... I sleep! Every damn year! On Saturday afternoon I opened my eyes at 1pm and kept them open to snap the images above. I sat on the balcony gazing at the waves break on the reef in the distance pondering the hours I wasted asleep. Seriously, who runs away from home to snooze? Apparently, I do! </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana";">Was I disappointed in my choice to exist? Was I disappointed in my lack of desire to change out of my sarong? Was I disappointed in my lack of adventure? Honestly? Yes!</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana";">But not for friggin long! #itiredman </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana";">With two kids, a husband, a house, a job and no housekeeper and natural hair, on any given day there is homework, housework, sexwork ( not a word, just made it up but I bet you know what it means) and hairwork ( not a word either but my naturalistas know the process of maintaining a fly ass poof!)</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana";">With that said, I have some advice for those of you considering a Mother's Day Staycation!</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana";">1. <strong>Don't Make Plans...</strong></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana";"> This time away is for you! It's okay if you decide at the spur of the moment </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana";"> you want to leave the property, but let it be sporadic! Don't make plans you </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana";">2. <strong>Do Take Supplies...</strong></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana";"> leaving the property. Also make sure you pack the correct quantity. This </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana";"> weekend I left in search of wine only because I ran out! Ha!!!!!!!!!!!!!</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana";"><strong> </strong>Make sure the resort is what you desire. Do you want a kitchenette or is a </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana";"> shower sufficient? Steps or elevator? Pool or not so much? Tripadvisor </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana";"> and Booking.yeah are my best friends. I read reviews, look at customer </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana";"><strong> </strong>Do forget your bra or maybe not. This year I wore a sarong for the entire </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana";"> time. But when I needed to go to Bristol I had no bra! Oh well, to the liquor</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana";"> store I went in my bikini and sarong! Sure did! And guess what, no one </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana";"> Really, I did! Oh hell no! Never happened. Candi bought me back to my </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana";"> This year I considered inviting a girlfriend over so we could catch up</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana";"> with some 'girl time'.... Nope I digested that thought too. Good thing because </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana";">Ladies, do try a staycation whether alone or with girlfriends. It has always been a vision of ours for Married Working Mothers to host a staycation. Each year on the drive home I feel rejuvenated to plan the 1st Annual MWM's Staycation. Imagine us at a resort, chillaxing whether in a room or by the pool....</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Yesterday, as I was walking out of my front door, I had a feeling of free-ness. I felt my body and realized, Ah, I wasn't wearing a bra. Hmmmm, how did that happen? I usually put on my under garments before anything else. How did I manage to NOT put on a bra?! Perhaps it was due to my subconscious thoughts of damning all bras to hell.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Mind you, I am a woman very much caught up in the bra world. I need it. It's a comfort for me. Or I think I need it. It helps to make these boobies look like "sense". I mean, I have two children, whom I breastfed. I'm in my mid-thirties, and naturally breasts won't be as firm, supple and sticky, right? I don't have breasts like a teenager anymore, so I need something to MAKE them look that way again, right?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">We aren't comfortable enough for loose boobies. Or maybe we are getting there, as somehow I managed to forget to put a bra on the other day. Now, I don't have big boobies and it may be the reason why I am able to give up wearing a bra a bit more readily than others. (But please remember, small don't mean a thing!) Some women need them for the support for much bigger boobies because without them they feel too heavy. Whatever the reasons are, </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">He was right. Most times our confidence is based on what other people will think or say (especially behind our backs). Walking around without a bra when you don't want to is to please others, not you. But here's the kicker, what we think other people are thinking may not even be what they are in fact thinking!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">WHOOOY!!!!!! Or should I say the road mash we up! LOL. Man, what a time!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Yes, 5:30 a.m.!! I woke up not only because my body is used to waking up that time but also I woke up in anxious anticipation for road fever. I messaged Tiffany, because I just knew she would be up. We go back and forth about the costumes and logistics of getting to the site.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Showered, fed and packing my bag to head to Tiffany's house to get dressed.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Arrived at Tiffany's house and ensued in lots of girlie things. Makeup, hair, accessorizing and of course girl talk. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">We didn't have our head pieces just yet and so I arrived to Tiffany's house with my hair fixed a certain way to suit the particular head piece we were shown by picture. Come to find out our head pieces became something else and hair had to be re-done! Arghhhh</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Met up with our other junkanoo carnival going friends for pre-road fever pics and shots. Wait did I say shots? I guess I did. **shrugs shoulders** #JudgeYaMa</span><br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">NO CLUE WHAT WE WERE SAYING TO EACH OTHER BUT I'M SURE IT WAS NOTHING APPROPRIATE! LOL</td></tr>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">DAMN! All of that and we haven't even started yet! LOL</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">We picked up our drawstring backpacks that contained our mug that we would need for dranks for the day. The bag came in handy for keeping my little knick knacks safe like my phone, lipstick, keys, etc. We were then dropped off to the sports centre only <i>just</i> to BEGIN our day for real for real.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">We hydrated with water, lots of water because it was hella HOT and mainly because the bar on wheels wasn't open yet. **side eye**</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">I don't believe I shared which Junkanoo Carnival group my friends and I participated in, did I? It was <b><a href="https://www.facebook.com/EnigmaBAH/?fref=ts" target="_blank">Enigma Bahamas</a>! </b>Shout outs to ya!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">On de road....more on de road...and on de road some more. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Two things I would change during the entire day was, ONE, the route was too long. At a certain point I marched off the road because I was done! PAHTEE DONE and that was about 9:00pm! Sorry, no evening pictures here because at that point my phone had died. (Remember to pack a backup battery for next time). SECOND, too much stopping to judge. I know the groups have to be judged but it took away from the vibe because it wasn't free flowing. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">I enjoyed the coming together by all my fellow Bahamian people AND non-Bahamian people. There was nothing but love on da streets and really that's what it's all about! </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">To the spectators and onlookers out there that may have felt some type of way about Junkanoo Carnival or didn't fully support the event, I hope to see you out there next year rather than be on the sidelines!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Signed, </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">#I'sAJunkanooCarnivalist </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Candilaria</span><br />
<br />MWMshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14170186430847327401noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1944833386648590205.post-68875957194319388472016-05-05T20:10:00.000-04:002016-05-05T20:10:23.564-04:00Bahamas Junkanoo Carnival 2016<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">We are in the second year of the recently created Bahamas Junkanoo Carnival and once again it is still met with lots of controversy. Controversy because a lot of people believe we are adopting another country's culture. At least that's the crux of it. As if the concept of "Carnival" is limited to only these countries. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Well if we look at the definition of "Carnival" according to the Webster Dictionary it means...</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">So there we go, I think of Bahamas Junkanoo Carnival as a celebration of Bahamian culture. The food, music, clothing, and essentially the PEOPLE!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I know the focus seems to be on it not being "Junkanoo" enough but come on people, is that the ONLY thing we feel we have to offer?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><b>Do we underestimate the value of our Bahamian people?</b> </span> </blockquote>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Why does it matter HOW we bring people to experience our culture? Whether it is a festival, a carnival, a concert, an art show, etc. Aren't all of these events universal?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I will let you know this, <b><i>this</i></b> Bahamian Gal ga be on da road dis Satdee! Yes, <b><i>this</i></b> Married Working Mother. And I ain shame!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Unfortunately, some of my "conservative" people will be overly critical especially when they don't agree with it. Possibly, because they don't agree with dancing half naked in the middle of the street. I, personally don't have an issue with it. The thing is, many of you will dance half naked at Trinidad and Jamaica's carnival. Why? Because you don't want "people" to see you carryin' on bad and require full anonymity or you are just too afraid to throw on that 2 piece and whine up ya body. My body is never where I want it to be but it's not going to stop me from enjoying something. I will be right there jigglin' down the road.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I've always wanted to experience carnival, elsewhere, but for whatever reasons, going never panned out. But I sit here writing this post thinking how proud I am that the very first Carnival I will participate in will be my very own, Bahamas Junkanoo Carnival!!! Where I will celebrate with my beautiful Bahamian people. That's some pretty cool shit.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Because after all, it's about the <b>PEOPLE!</b> So tourists, <i>HERE I COME</i>, this is one Bahamian you will have a good time with :) <b>GET READY</b>!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><b>Stay tuned for my follow up post next week documenting my experience!</b></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Signed, </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I found myself sitting down in a little coffee shop reflecting on my own life and everything that it includes and excludes. Do you find yourself do that? Reflecting? I've been doing a lot of that lately. If you're anything like me, this sort of thinking leads to deeper thinking. Deeper thinking into what this life is really all about and the "what ifs" of the world.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">What would happen if we stopped and asked ourselves...</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">What if, your weight <i>really</i> didn't matter. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">What if, you could have the job you wanted and not the job you got stuck with.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">What if, having a lot money or being perceived to have a lot of money didn't mean shit.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">What if, you didn't feel the need to create a magical childhood for your child(ren).</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">What if, the dreamy, fairytale love was real and lasted a lifetime.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">What if, you didn't have to hide your imperfections with makeup.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">What if, you loved your natural hair Every. Single. Day.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">What if, you didn't have to dress "on point" every time you stepped out of the house.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">What if, you could craft your sex life the way YOU want it and when YOU want it.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">What if, you weren't so anal about only having 9 "what ifs" that you constructed this one to make it an EVEN ten...<i>(Ughhhh, Candi you really need to do better)</i></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I didn't write this post to answer any of these "what ifs" or am I making any suggestions. Quite frankly, I am still personally reflecting on them. I'm not trying to write about some pie in the sky, perfect life scenario. Nor do I want you to reflect negatively on where you are at in life at the moment.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><b>WHAT IF</b>...the point is not to digest them all at the same time. The point could be to nibble at them one at a time, starting with the one that speaks to you the loudest. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Anyway, let me go see which one screams at me, although that damn magical childhood bullshit has my name written all over it.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">#IGatCrossfitTonight #MoneyGattaMake #FaceHairOutfitOnFleek #MeAndHubbyDoneRowThisMorning #DoesThatMeanSexTonight #OutrageousKiddieBDayPartyPlanningHereICome </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">This morning my daughter innocently made a suggestion. "Mummy, maybe you should stop being a teacher and become the person who does hair in a salon." Bless her heart, because I style my daughter's hair, Channing believes I possess the skills to be coiffurist!</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Without pause I responded, "Good idea! It's not too late Channing!" I walked out of my bedroom and smiled. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">My six year old believes in one's ability to change. Why not? It's only logical that if you're good at something you should do what you are good at!</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Through my daughter's eyes, my journey as a mother has uncovered my beautician skills. Who knew? For the last twenty odd years I have viewed myself as a teacher but what if I am a budding stylist?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Hmm... According to the quote above I am unbecoming a teacher so I can be who I was meant to be in the first place! ( I seriously doubt that is a beautician though!)</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: x-large;">"Maybe it is about unbecoming everything that isn't really you.."</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">This life is strange. For the last 43 years, life has been about becoming something. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Become a good daughter.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Become a good sister.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Become a good Christian.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Become a high school graduate.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Become a college graduate.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Become an independent woman.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Become a career woman.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Become a good girlfriend.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Become a good church member.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Become a wife.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Become a mother.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Let's be logical. I am Tiffany. I should be good at being Tiffany. Hence as Channing inferred...if I am good at being Tiffany I should do what I am good at...becoming Tiffany. Being Tiffany!</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Wait a minute. What about all of my roles? What about all the people who love Tiffany? Oh yes, they would support me right? They wouldn't judge my hidden desires if I expose them to the universe would they? They love me unconditionally right? I can quit my job and be a gypsy if my little heart yearns for bare feet, a headband and twirls lots of twirls in the grass as 2:15pm just because? Everyone would understand if I spoke with no filter at all times? Yes? or No?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Remember now, we all know good little girls are taught to..</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Please your teachers.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Then good women are expected to ...</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Please your priest.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Please your colleagues.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Please your employer.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Please your girlfriends.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Please your husband.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">And how do you please all these folks? You do what they want you to do. You be who they think you should be. You fulfill their requests. You never say no! You ensure they are happy and not disappointed. You stay the course. Stay in their lane. Do them and not you. You wear the right clothing. You frown at the wrong jokes. You buy the right gifts. You discuss the right topics. You swallow the wrong words. You dismiss the wrong thoughts.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Awesome! You did it! You are 35 years of age with the accolades of an approved husband, approved children in the approved school always dressed in the approved clothing, the approved house, on the approved street, with the approved car to take you to your approved job, dressed in the approved clothing to hang out with the approved colleagues or girlfriends who on the approved night you go out to dinner at the approved restaurant and drink the approved drink before you go home at the approved hour.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">No wonder so many of us are exhausted! </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Look at this image to the right. At 39 the ladies are concerned about drinking the 'approved wine' and wearing the 'approved pants'! </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">And then you wake up one morning and you decide to change the journey. For many, we turn 40! </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">SOME OF US! I repeat some of us....</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">We are tired but not physically tired because given the correct environment we have the energy of a five year old. No we are tired of living the 'Approved By All' life. There are some women who are ready to unbecome, to unbecome the 'Approved By All' life to be who they were meant to be in the first place!</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Here's the question though, how do you unbecome? By this age when you realize what if my life is not about becoming anything it is about unbecoming everything that isn't really me, to be everything I was meant to be, you are vested in life. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">These are our commitments. By no means do I believe you 'unbecome' and neglect commitments. But by all means I do believe you 'unbecome' and be you within the confines of commitments.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Be that woman who laughs at naughty jokes or better yet tells naughty jokes! Laugh and laugh hard. If you like to dance, leave those approved girlfriends sitting down and dance until your shoes expire. I dare you to dance in the middle of the dance floor too! Be that woman who speaks her thoughts. Yes, they may be confrontational but what if your words are the first step to healing. Be the woman who reads a book at a party because you are bored and don't feel like talking to the boring approved people at the party. At least you were prepared and brought something to do!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: x-large;">Unpeel!</span><br />
<span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: x-large;">Detox!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Scratch the layers off. Soak off the dead skin. Hell, laser if you have to do.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">But dammit ladies...let's live man! We don't have to take our bras off and burn them but let's live with our bras on.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Speaking of bras. For those who know me I have big boobs, big DD boobs, a girlfriend refers to them as my national geographics because they are saggy too. Well, I'll have you know the other night I was at a restaurant, well my bra expired. Sweetness, at 43, I stood up, went to a corner and took my bra off. Yes I did! I 'unbecame and let my girls loose'! </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">The lyrics of 'Fight Song' by Rachel Platten inspire me. Let it inspire you!</span></div>
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Like a small boat<br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />On the ocean<br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />Sending big waves<br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />Into motion<br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />Like how a single word<br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />Can make a heart open<br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />I might only have one match<br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />But I can make an explosion<br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />And all those things I didn't say<br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />Wrecking balls inside my brain<br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />I will scream them loud tonight<br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />Can you hear my voice this time?<br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />This is my fight song<br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />Take back my life song<br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />Prove I'm alright song<br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />My power's turned on<br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />Starting right now I'll be strong<br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />I'll play my fight song<br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />And I don't really care if nobody else believes<br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />'Cause I've still got a lot of fight left in me<br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Listen and sing loud loud loud. When it plays on the radio and your daughter sings it, you sing too!</span><br />
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MWMshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14170186430847327401noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1944833386648590205.post-89338830178589668292016-04-14T20:23:00.003-04:002016-04-14T20:23:46.899-04:00Why Being a Parent is so Hard?<div class="tr_bq">
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">I've been struggling with the concept of being a parent. Not just being a parent, but being a parent in today's society AND to a generation Millennial set of children. YIKES!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">This week I stumbled across <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/rhonda-stephens/are-todays-parents-getting-a-raw-deal_b_9645450.html?" target="_blank">this</a> brilliant article on HuffPost Parents and felt inspired to add my voice to this discussion.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">A good damn question. A question I debate MY parents with all the time.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">I had a discussion with a friend the other day trying to make sense of it all. I discuss things like this daily or else I will have a complete meltdown. LOL. For realsies! One of the points I brought up was...</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Think about it for a second, it begins from the minute we find out we are pregnant. We want better doctor care, better vitamins to nourish our bodies and growing babies, better surroundings for delivering baby, oh and let's not forget the hospital designer bag packed to the nines! Time to bring baby home and you step into the baby room and all it's colour coordinated decor that you and hubby mulled over for months before baby's arrival. Shoot, by the time baby gets home his/her life is more on point than a grown ass man working 80 hours a week. Making other parents feel less than a parent because they didn't even have a room to put baby in! And you're just out of the gate with this parenting thing!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">It doesn't stop there! Fast forward to school age and now the child must have the latest and the greatest toy, educational something (to make it look good), electronic device, games, clothes, footwear, etc. THEN....while, I understand it's an important decision on which school experience your child will embark on, however, these new boutique schools are now all the rave and the school you attended when you were younger is no longer good enough. Adding pressure to the parents in making sure their child is in the "right" school.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">We've become a more neurotic society and in some instances too safe. Children don't play outside anymore, long gone are the days when kids can go ride their bikes around the neighborhood. Growing up, my brother and I made it in the house just before the sun set. Did my parents know where we were or what we were doing? No. Did they worry? I'm sure they did. But they gave us that. Now, we don't allow our children to go past the end of the driveway because we can't keep an eye on them. Don't play too close to the rusty playground apparatus now kids! Now, they are constantly in our faces soaking up the air condition we are paying for.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Why is there a constant need to make their life a gagillion times better than what we had? Why isn't what we had, enough? Are we setting them up for some serious disappointment??? This constant need to provide them with an amazing, epic experience. When we made forts, they were out of blankets, now they are one click away with an Amazon purchase. We performed self directed and produced skits for our parents. We took a sheet and sat on it while the other sibling pulled us violently down the long hallway not caring where in the living room we landed. We climbed trees and found ways to get on top of the roof. We didn't come inside for snacks, we picked fruits from the many trees planted in the backyard. We washed our hands using the tap on the side of the house. We turned the broken lawn chairs into speed boats. We bounced on the old mattress like it was the biggest trampoline ever. We used our imaginations and created our own fun. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">It's become, the outrageous birthday parties, the extravagant gifts, the fancy family trips, experiences that I only was privileged to have as an adult. What are we missing here? Crafting on the weekends, taking our kids here, there and every where so they aren't in the house all day. Kids are simple. Parents not so much. We're doing this to ourselves. Why has parenting become so hard?? It's because...</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">What will these kids have to look forward to when they grow up if we've given them every kind of experience we can think of and only appreciate as grown adults???</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">I'm guessing we will have a generation of extremely bored, unimpressed individuals. Always seeking the latest and the greatest because they were never raised to experience the boring and the mundane, or learned to love the beauty of the simple things.</span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"> </span><br />
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MWMshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14170186430847327401noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1944833386648590205.post-27226984598956217172016-04-11T16:20:00.000-04:002016-04-11T16:42:50.869-04:00Seriously?!!!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: x-large;">Beg? </span><br>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: x-large;">Kill?</span><br>
<span style="font-family: "verdana"; font-size: x-large;">For some sex? </span><br>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana";"></span><br>MWMshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14170186430847327401noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1944833386648590205.post-58127288407088933232016-04-07T16:08:00.000-04:002016-04-07T16:08:03.231-04:00Sexless Marriages<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><b>What is a sexless marriage?</b> </span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><i>It is a marriage in which little or no sexual activity occurs between the two spouses.</i></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Sexless marriages occur waaaaaay more than you think. So, our anonymous "Dear MWM" is amongst the many. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><i>DID YOU KNOW</i>, according to Huff Post, google searches for "sexless marriage" are three and a half times more common than "unhappy marriage" and <i>eight </i>times more common than "loveless marriage"??</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">It can be an incredibly painful and somewhat embarrassing topic for some. One that very few discuss merely because 1. They are under the impression that this issue only exists within their marriage and no one else's, 2. Fear of embarrassing their partner, and of course 3. The "it isn't anyone's business" comment. Keeping silent does more harm than good as it doesn't help anyone else who might be going through the same thing.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">It doesn't take being with your partner for 15-20 years to realize or feel that shit goes south in that department quickly. Believe it or not, sex is one of the first things to disappear in a marriage. And I'm not talking about that hot, sweaty, passionate, 3 and 4 rounds type of sex. That was probably gone from before you got married LOL (because that passion fades), but I digress. I'm talking about the regular 12-minute (sometimes that's 8 minutes too long) that includes foreplay that kinda sustains your marriage type of sex. Yes, even sex of that nature ceases. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Sexless marriages can occur for a host of reasons. Those reasons being, having and the pressure of having kids, tired, over worked, no attraction, no passion, not sufficient mental engagement, low to no sex drive, communication issues, hurt from past situations, tired of being the initiator, or just plain 'ole tired of grindin' (a very Bahamian term) the same man/woman. The list is long and new reasons are constantly being added to it.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">It is important to point out that just like everything else, our sex drive waxes and wanes, OFTEN. The realization that "sex and sexual expression changes along with the longevity of a marriage" is <i>significant</i> says psychotherapist Tina Tessina. The acceptance of this realization assists with difficult times.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><b>But what is the solution???</b></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Your guess is as good as mine! Tiffany offered some ideas in her <a href="http://marriedworkingmothers.blogspot.com/2016/04/dear-mwm.html" target="_blank">post</a>. My suggestion would be to have open, honest and very real communication. That's all I've got. Something we all struggle with I imagine. Not all of us are ready to hear certain things or say certain things for that matter. However, give your partner the opportunity to be an active part of the solution. After all, this is supposed to be someone who has been with you through thick and thin.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">If you are the one that doesn't want to have sex you probably should search internally and ask yourself what's going on. Ask yourself questions. Could it be a physical or physiological condition? Or could it be past situations in your marriage that you simply cannot resolve? Is it just companionship I want and fulfill my sexual desire elsewhere? If you are the spouse left unsatisfied, do your best to calmly and effectively communicate your concerns. Don't blame. It's difficult but being pushy and/or constantly upset about the matter works against you. Maybe, all you need is a little hand job or cunnilingus to get you by. Is that something your partner is willing to compromise on while you both are figuring it all out?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">I don't believe there is a time frame or limit on rectifying this kind of thing, and I also don't believe that it's something that should NOT be actively worked on. Whether it's baby steps, like talking through it first or trying to bring the spark back by going to a movie for a date night, or major steps like, scheduling actual time for sex because you're too busy/tired otherwise, therapy sessions, investigating an open relationship or even swinging (that's a whole other post!). Figure out what you both want. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Unfortunately, sometimes it's this single yet insurmountable issue that may be the catalyst to a harsh reality that none of it will work and the end of the road for your relationship. And you know what, it's no one's fault. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Or maybe just maybe, we are all fooling ourselves into thinking we can maintain a certain level of sexual intimacy we are expected to for a lifetime. </span><br />
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<span style="background-color: #ea9999; color: white; font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;"><u>What if we reconsidered these thoughts and adjusted our perspective on marriage to reflect more realistic "expectations" or no expectations at all?</u></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Below is a letter sent from an anonymous reader to our email account marriedworkingmothers@gmail.com. This is the first time Candi and I have received an email of this nature. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace;">Dear Candi and Tiffany,</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace;">I love your blog. Both of you are willing to be honest as you share your experience as wives, women and mothers.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace;">I would like your advice. I am not attracted to my husband any longer. I have been married for fourteen years with three children. My husband is seven years older and always ready to have sex with me. I enjoy sex unfortunately I am never in the mood to have sex with my husband. I no longer find him attractive. </span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace;">Our life is great, my husband wants me but I don't want him.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace;">What do I do?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">I decided to post my response in the blog based on the reality that many more of our readers may be having the exact experience.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Dear Anonymous, </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Wow! Thank you for your kind and thoughtful words. Both Candi and I are humbled by your request for our advice.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Go to your internet browser. Type 'not attracted to my husband'. Press 'enter'! There are countless articles tackling this issue.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: x-large;">You are not alone!</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Despite what women may say to their husbands, women do have sex drives. Our loins tingle and want to be satisfied as well. For some wives, their husband are the focus of their desires, for others not so much.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">This topic is a difficult one to discuss as many women are unwilling to disclose such information. How does anyone say to their girlfriend 'my husband doesn't arouse me' when their girlfriend's Facebook page is inundated with perfect photos of her and her husband? How does the girlfriend who posts all the 'perfect pictures' reveal to her girlfriend, 'I post pictures but I have no desire for my husband to make me cum'?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Hence your anonymous request for advice. Well as you mentioned at MWM's, we are willing to share our opinions on taboo topics!</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">In an effort to 'Seek First To Understand Then To Be Understood' the following are what I read in your email to be true.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">If all of these statements are true before I offer my humble opinion I have a few questions.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">Were you attracted to your husband before you were married? Truly attracted or did you make a calculated decision to marry?</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">If you did make a smart decision to marry, then it only makes sense why your husband is not attractive any longer. He never was attractive!</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">If your husband was attractive to you but over the years you are no longer in the mood, then ask yourself, what happened?</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">I have been married for eight years. I am 43 years old, my husband is 40. We have two children. We have known each other for 13 years. The intensity of my sex drive is directly linked to my sense of security and satisfaction.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">If my husband built a successful business venture making our financial future secure, so secure I could pursue my dreams, raise our children and enjoy life of course I would desire more sex. As life stands, I am a MWM with worries. Those worries can consume my thoughts on many evenings and I have no interest in his 'good good'!</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Sometimes life can get in the way! Men do not understand their ability to take care of sh$#t is directly linked to our interest in sex.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Yes bored! Marriage can be boring. Same bed, same position, same man!</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Maybe you aren't attracted to your husband because he's become boring. Did you stop having fun together? Did your bedroom become boring?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Anonymous, you asked for our advice on what to do. I wish I knew your answers to my questions. I don't so here goes. What should you do?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Let me start by stating I believe there are stages in a marriage. There are stages in a marriage because humans go through different stages of development. People change therefore marriages change. We cannot expect to be as fascinated or passionate with an individual after years and years of 'looking up into one another's face'. </span><br />
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<li><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">If you have never been attracted to your husband but yet you still married him because it was the smart thing to do unfortunately, I doubt you will ever be attracted to him. Carry on your life smartly!</span></li>
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<li><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">If you are not attracted to your husband because life is heavy and you are carrying the weight of your family on your back, discuss your frustration with your husband. BE BLUNT! 'These ________ (Fill in the blank) are killing me. I can't figure everything out. I need you to take care of some of this sh%&t! He may surprise you and step up by offering solutions. One thing is true, he can't offer a solution if he is unaware of a problem. Hopefully, once aware of the weight on your shoulders he will assist by being your knight in shining armour. Every woman wants to make love to their one and only knight!</span></li>
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<li><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">If you are not physically attracted to your husband, yikes ... this is a sensitive situation. It is time for a "Come to Jesus" conversation. A conversation which may begin with the words, 'Honey, I love you, I'm not going anywhere but your ___________ (Fill in the blank) is affecting my desire to have sex. Sigh.... this is difficult! Big sigh!</span></li>
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<li><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">If you're not attracted to your husband because you are bored, well, get a life! Maybe you're bored with yourself not bored with him. The only person you can change is you. #stopbeingboring #makeyourbedexcitingforyou </span></li>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Now if you make your dilemma known to your husband but he does not care because he is ratchet and has a side piece, a woman's pursuit for equality only mandates you have the ability to be ratchet and get a side piece too! I'm just saying!!!!</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Here is one thing I believe to be true. <span style="font-size: x-large;">E</span><span style="font-size: x-large;">very woman deserves to have hot passionate body sweating sex with a man who makes her weak in the knees with just the sight of him!</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Don't accept a dead sex life. Candi has implored all of us to get in touch with our vaginas. If your vagina could talk she'd say, "Hurry up and solve this problem. I want to cum!"</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Your husband sounds like a great guy. You sound like a great gal. It is amazing how two great people have the potential to traverse the ups and downs of marriage.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">I hope my words have helped. Before you do anything, pray, quiet your soul and listen for direction. You will discover what to do. I believe you will!</span></div>
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MWMshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14170186430847327401noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1944833386648590205.post-24646902674944075562016-03-31T19:35:00.001-04:002016-03-31T19:35:20.132-04:00What really happened when I left my job<div class="tr_bq">
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I resigned from my job last year May. Mainly because I wanted more. Not more as in a higher position and more money, but more out of my life. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I had a decent job. Well paid. Flexible. And most days were pretty "even steven" (in other words, stable and consistent). I was comfortable.</span><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I needed a change. </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I wanted to create a life and business I loved.</span></b> </blockquote>
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<b><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I just happen to be home while doing it.</span></b></blockquote>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">The feelings I had leaving my job <i>then</i> were many different things. But little did I know, the feelings I would have months and months after, realizing what leaving entailed, and how much the thoughts and comments of others would affect me. All of which weighed heavy on me.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Not everyone is going to support you. Not everyone is going to have something nice to say. Not everyone will understand your actions. People will talk about you. People will try to talk you out of it.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Could it be the lack of understanding? And generally from a cultural standpoint, this is not something we do. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><i>"Say, what?! Quit ya good paying job to go 'fluff' 'bout?! You musse crazy, eh!" </i></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Or could it be the fact that some would simply love to do what I am crazy enough to do? Just maybe.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I've been pigeon holed into categories such as, "Stay at Home Mom", "Woman of Leisure", "Homemaker", "House Manager", etc., the list goes on. I would be lying if I didn't say those words bothered me. Not because those roles aren't valuable but because it's just not everything I am trying to accomplish. I do spend more time at home. I do spend more time with the kids. I do have a bit more time for other activities. But I am also not limited to those roles either. I felt the need to constantly defend my choices until I caught myself. To who? And for what?!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I guess people have a natural tendency to categorize others when we have a hard time understanding (because everyone needs a label, right?!) someone's actions that don't make sense to us. Someone who has decided to pursue something outside of the 9am - 5pm. Even more so when that someone doesn't yet know what direction they are heading in and just for a time, they just want to be.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I'm not here to pit a debate between one or the other. The old time debate between one who works a 9pm-5pm versus one who doesn't (Whether she/he is building something on her/his own or stays at home). </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">For me, it's more of discontinuing the habit to label something we do not understand. Once you begin to label, you start down the slippery slope of judging. Judging then leads to unwarranted comments and that helps no one. Unfortunately, we are all guilty of it. We are entitled to our own opinions and perspectives, but we are not entitled to project them onto someone else.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Funny thing is, it's not like I've never worked a day in my life! But for whatever reason, the minute I left it was as if I could no longer relate to those that were working on someone else's time!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I'm not doing anything extraordinary or something that hasn't been done before. But I may be a bit more courageous than most by standing out on this lonely limb. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">So, my advice for those that are thinking about leaving their jobs or will be leaving their jobs soon is this...</span><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">1. It's okay to not know what exactly you are pursuing. For some, there is an immediate plan. For others, space and an undecided amount time is needed for them to figure it out.</span> </b></blockquote>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">You've made the best decision for you which hopefully will not only benefit you, but your family as well. You should never have to apologize for or explain the decisions you make for yourself and family. </span><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">#IDoItMyWay, Candilaria</span> </b><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">#JudgeYaMa (LOL, I couldn't resist. Int'l peeps, it's a very Bahamian expression)</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><br /></span>MWMshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14170186430847327401noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1944833386648590205.post-28041581314230495422016-03-24T16:27:00.002-04:002016-03-24T16:27:31.386-04:00The Missing Gender Equality Bill<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Here in The Bahamas, we are involved in a gender equality battle that has lasted more than 40 years. A referendum was conducted in 2002 where the majority of the Bahamian people that voted, voted "No" to all Gender Equality bills. Yes, yes, I know. I can't believe it either.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">It's now 2016, and all eyes are on the upcoming referendum with the amended Bills (2014). It is now a serious call to action. A gender-focused call to action to help accelerate the need to institute full equality between men and women in matters of citizenship and, more broadly, to eliminate discrimination in The Bahamas based on sex. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">First, allow me to bring our International readers up to speed.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">On March 2, our Members of Parliament voted yes (for the second time) and passed four amended Gender Equality Bills. The communication to the House of Assembly by The Prime Minister & Minister of Finance and Member for Centerville (constituency) plainly explains each bill as follows...</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><b>Bill # 1: The Bahamas Constitution (Amendment) Bill, 2014</b></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">This bill seeks to give a child born outside The Bahamas to a Bahamian-born mother and non-Bahamian father the same automatic right to Bahamian citizenship that the Constitution already gives to a child born outside of The Bahamas to a Bahamian-born father and a non-Bahamian mother. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><b>Bill # 2: The Bahamas Constitution (Amendment) (No. 2) Bill, 2014</b></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">This bill seeks to enable a Bahamian woman who marries a foreign man to secure for him the same access to Bahamian citizenship that a Bahamian man has always enjoyed under the Constitution in relation to his foreign spouse.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><b>Bill # 3 : The Bahamas Constitution (Amendment) (No.3) Bill, 2014</b></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">At present, an unwed Bahamian father cannot pass his citizenship to a child born to a foreign woman. A right that a Bahamian woman has always had under the Constitution in relation to a child born to her out of wedlock.</span><br />
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<i style="color: purple; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">See there. Gender equality does not only mean for women. Both men and women ought to enjoy the same privileges! </i></blockquote>
<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><b>Bill # 4: The Bahamas Constitution (Amendment) (No. 4) Bill, 2014</b></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">This bill seeks to end the discrimination based on sex. This involves the insertion of the word "sex" in Article 26 of the Constitution so as to make it unconstitutional to discriminate based on whether someone is male or female.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">BUT wait, they missed Bill No. 5</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Huh?! What Bill No.5 you ask?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">This bill seeks to create gender equality <b>WITHIN THE HOME</b>. This involves an equal division of household duties and interaction with the children. No chore or task should be expected to be carried out by any gender in particular. <i>Get 'er done.</i> If ya husband arrives home before you then he should begin dinner (or prepare food of some sort), bathe the children, and assist with the freakin' homework. Women, take out the garbage, mow the lawn, and replace the damn light bulb.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">You see, if we are going to fight for equal rights, it should be across the board and it ought to start in the home. Don't you think? As it stands, I imagine women have to negotiate the "terms" of running the household with their husbands. Negotiate what they need "assistance" with household chores and with the children. For example, why isn't it an automatic thing for the man to wake up in the morning and get the children up and ready for school? For the men that do it, is it in fact an automatic behaviour of yours or is it due to the negotiations with the wife? I would like feedback on that.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">I figure, if we want to see true change in equality between men and women, it begins within the four walls of your home. Children watch and learn from us parents. They witness first hand which tasks "belong" to who and will carry that with them into adulthood. The cycle then continues.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Gone are the days of women trying to be Superwoman or She-Ra, whichever you prefer. Glorifying the fact that I can "bare the children then get back to business" (said in my hardest Beyonce voice ever). It is a fallacy. You will run yourself right into the ground. Guaranteed. And that ain't cute nor healthy.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Women, this is a two way street. We can't expect to be treated equally if we are not willing to accept and do certain tasks we feel (and expect) are the duties of a man. It doesn't work that way, eh? </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">So, let's start doing them. If these tasks weren't on your radar before, let's be more conscious about them and DO IT! Over and over and over. Practice makes perfect! Soon our actions will become automatic and allow for the clearly defined lines of gender roles to crawl in a dark hole and die.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Emma Watson said "Gender equality not only liberates women but also men from prescribed gender stereotypes." </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">We must continue the fight outside of the home by all means but let's admit it, </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"> </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">#VoteYesBahamas to everything...(including No. 5 hehe), Candilaria</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">The power that I speak of is not the controlling kind of power. Nope, not the power to "control" your partner to get them to do what you want becoming disillusioned or consumed by the cookie. Also, not the power of men feeling they need to "own" it.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">The power I speak of is the culmination of the previous parts of this series, </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">While it does not define us, I cannot help but to say that the vagina is <b>THE</b> most sacred, MOST exclusive and unique characteristic that sets us apart from men. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">For far too long we've allowed our vaginas to be defined by others. "Others" meaning men <b>AND</b> even other women. From the way it smells, the feeling of shame that comes with touching it, the way it looks, to ultimately what we thing about it. In many ways this convolutes what our personal preferences really are, preventing us from discovering what we like for ourselves.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">We <b>HAVE </b>to intimately know this part of our bodies because i</span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">t is </span><b style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">THE</b><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"> most central part of womanhood. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">For that reason, it is imperative that we take the power back and demand the respect both men AND women ought to have towards the <b>vessel of life!</b> </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">A woman's relationship with her vagina could change her life. T</span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">ake control of, embrace, and harness your sexuality and even more powerful... </span><br />
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<b style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Knowing, learning and eventually loving your vagina is a pathway for you to tap into your courage, your dreams, your power, and your destiny.</b></blockquote>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Today is March 8, and it's <b>International Women's Day</b>! A global day celebrating the social, economic, cultural and political achievements of women.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">The website for International Women's Day describes the meaning of this day as...</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">The campaign theme for this year is to accelerate gender parity, #PledgeForParity. Parity is the state or condition of being equal, especially as it regards to status or pay. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Women all around the world are battling for and/or celebrating different things and for different reasons. But not to worry, whether you are fighting that courageous fight towards gender equality or simply celebrating the empowersome woman you are, </span><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Married Working Mothers raises a glass (or many) to all of you!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Happy #InternationalWomensDay</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><br /></span>MWMshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14170186430847327401noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1944833386648590205.post-71313728074594406422016-03-07T16:07:00.000-05:002016-03-07T16:07:14.741-05:00Winners of the February Give-A-Way<br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">First and foremost, we would like to thank all of those that participated in the Married Working Mothers February Give-A-Way!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">If you didn't see it on our Facebook page the winners are....</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Keshala Knowles, winner of the 60 minute coaching session with Kaylus is.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">And Wendy Ferguson-Newbold of the thirty minute coaching session with Kaylus.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Congratulations ladies!!!!! Stay tuned for the next giveaway! </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Married Working Mothers helping other married working mothers to perhaps make life a bit easier!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Candi + Tiffany</span>MWMshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14170186430847327401noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1944833386648590205.post-27789646917483698702016-03-03T16:01:00.002-05:002016-03-06T12:54:02.092-05:00What does yours look like...Yes, your Vajayjay!<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">Part Three of the #ILoveMyVagina Series</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Well, go ahead have a look. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">and snapSHOT that pu**y </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><i>(notice, I did not say "snapCHAT that pu**y" </i></span><i style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">becuz </i><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><i>that </i></span><i style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;"> </i><span style="font-size: large;">♫♫ </span>"<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><i>goes</i></span><i style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;"> down in the DM" </i><span style="font-size: large;">♫♫</span><i style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">...KIDDING!).</i><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"> </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Take a good look at it. I'll wait.......</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">All done? What do you think? Some of the responses may surprise you...</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Unfortunately, the majority of women think the appearance of their vagina isn't very appealing. Some may even go as far as to describe it using words like horrible or disgusting. Really?!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">A quick FYI for today's post; We tend to refer to both the internal and the external genitals of the lower region as the vagina. However, when we talk about the external appearance of the "vagina" what we are really referring to are the size, shape, colour, etc. of the Vulva. The vulva includes the mons pubis (pubic mound, aka the top piece lol), the outer and inner lips, the clitoris, and the external openings of the urethra and vagina. But for ease and for this series I will continue to use the word vagina to describe it all.</span><br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Sculpture done by artist, Jamie McCartney, The Great Wall of Vagina</td></tr>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">You already looked for one similar to yours, didn't you? LOL. It's okay, I did the same!</span> </span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">But look at that. Vaginas of all shapes and sizes and they are all beautiful. This wall of vagina obviously does not depict ALL the vaginas in the world so please don't get bent out of shape if you don't see one quite like yours.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Women, vaginas vary from woman to woman just as any other part of our bodies. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><b>There is no specific way for your vagina to look. </b></span></blockquote>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">The most visible part of your vagina are your labia (outer and inner lips). They can be thin, fat, not there at all, short, or long. For some the inner lips may stick out from the outer lips. The color of the skin of the labia maybe the same tone as your skin, but sometimes it is darker, or even lighter. The left lip may be juicier than the right lip, asymmetrical, just like your breasts.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">And let's talk about the amazing little "pink canoe" aka the clitoris <i>(which should be your favorite part for obvious reasons. Do people realize its only purpose is for pleasure?!).</i> Also, did you know that 3/4 of this organ is under your skin?! This little critter of fun can range in length from 1/4 inch to 1 1/4 inch and can be small and hidden or large and hang.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">I've read about Vagina Rejuvenation (which is essentially a facelift for your vagina). Ughhhh....and you know what, it evokes the same thoughts I have about what I mentioned in <a href="http://marriedworkingmothers.blogspot.com/2016/02/what-is-your-vagina-supposed-to-smell.html" target="_blank">part one</a> of this series. The fact that women will not only go to great unncessary lengths for the "perfect" scent but will do the same to achieve the "perfect" looking punani. For what? For who?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Fu*k that.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Give yourself some love and let go of all the negative thoughts you have towards it. Hey, take pictures even. But make sure you keep them in your own private stash!!! LOL</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><b>It's naturally yours and it's naturally beautiful!</b></span></blockquote>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><i>Smell</i> it.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><i>Touch</i> it.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><i>Look</i> at it. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><i>Admire</i> it. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><b>LOVE IT<i>!</i></b></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">If you missed the first parts one and two of the #ILoveMyVagina series, please click on the links below:</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><a href="http://marriedworkingmothers.blogspot.com/2016/02/what-is-your-vagina-supposed-to-smell.html" target="_blank">Part One - What is your vagina supposed to smell like...</a></span><br />
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<a href="http://marriedworkingmothers.blogspot.com/2016/02/ladies-do-you-touch-it.html" target="_blank"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Part Two - Ladies, do you touch it....</span></a><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><br /></span>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">#IThinkMyPussyIsPretty, </span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Candilaria</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">#ILoveMyVagina</span><br />
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