MARRIAGE: The List

This upcoming week my life is going to change...again!

Last week I lost my housekeeper. This week my two year old son will begin school.

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Sigh.....

But change is not the reason I am writing. I am writing because of a conversation I had with my husband regarding the changes.

The conversation went something like this...






"I realize life is about to get busy. All that I ask is that you put me on the list," said Eric.
"Put you on the list?" I asked. "What list?"
"Your list," he replied. "You know, the list in your head of all the things you have to do. Put me on that list with the same urgency as everything else!"

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Now I don't know about any of you but the moment I open my eyes every morning my brain starts churning. I literally have to stop and force the thoughts away so I can pray. For example, here is my list for today.

• Get a passport size photo of Chase
• Wash a load of laundry
• Iron Channing's uniforms for next week
• Call prospective housekeeper
• Go to Family Guardian
• Mop

I can go on...

Eric wants to get on that list. Not only does he want to get on my list he wants urgency.

Urgency? Hmmm..

When I get home everyday as soon as I walk through the door I start moving. I have to put things in order, whether it be a toy not in the toy room, a shoe not in the closet, a glass on a vanity or a towel thrown on the bed, I need order. I cannot relax until I can walk around the house and feel like everything is in place. The minute I am satisfied I relax but until then I am relentless. 

Eric wants relentlessness when it comes to my attention to him.

Unfortunately this does not happen regularly because by the time I do all that I feel needs to be done I am exhausted and/or irritated. Who has time to stop for a hug or a kiss? Who has energy for sex after washing dishes?

And so his words are,"Put me on the list?" Make me just as important as the dishes! 

"Jeez already! As if I don't have enough going on!"

Sigh...

But I saw him and I heard him. I need to put him on the list. Today's list needs to be revised.

• Hug Eric
• Get a passport size photo of Chase
• Wash a load of laundry
• Send Eric a loving text
• Iron Channing's uniforms for next week
• Call prospective housekeeper
• Kiss Eric for one whole entire minute not just a peck
• Go to Family Guardian
• Mop
• Rub Eric's back when he gets in the bed

No, sex is not on today's list. That ended up being added on yesterday's list! 

Sigh...

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And so, a girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do!

Until I blog again,

Eric and I celebrating being on each other's list
back when life was less busy!

Tiffany

P.S. The moral of the story is put your husband on your list or he may just end up on somebody else's list!