Do you ever
wake up in the morning feeling like you just cannot get out of the bed? Not because you are tired. Not because you are tucked cozily underneath
your covers. No no. Because you dread
going to a job you dislike.
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Why would
anyone want to get out of their comfortable bed to go to a job feeling
like that??
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Do you
remember my post the other day about burning bras? LOL. Do you think we feel this way because really
we should be home raising our children and pouring ourselves into them?
Well…I don’t
know about y’all, but my job is my getaway from the kiddies! It’s Ok to admit it. I ain shame! It’s probably your escape to. Don’t lie. Yes the stress is there. And yes I work hard (most times) when at work. BUT somehow it’s not the same as two screaming
children in your ear, pulling on our leg, asking for this and that….non-stop…non….stop!
As much as I
would love to be a stay at home mom….at the same time, I know me. I know what I can take from what I
cannot. And trust me a full day…EVERY, SINGLE, DAY? With these children??…HA…not
going happen. And as I mentioned in my
previous post…I need a child-sitter AND a housekeeper. I ain playin’! LOL
So, back to
the point; maybe it’s just that we never took the time out to figure out what
makes us happy or figure out exactly what our talents are.
I understand
we all have circumstances that don’t allow us to do the things we would like to
do. There is time and of course financial obligations; that is a big one.
Hello mortgage! Geesh!
But what would
you do if you knew you couldn’t fail? What
are you desires? What are your dreams? Where is your passion?
I’m here to encourage
you, you can do it! Whatever it is you wish to do. You can.
It’s easy to feel stuck in the “box”.
It’s easy to be scared. But this
is your well-being we’re talking about! (I am writing this post for myself just
as much as I am for you!)
We want to
be happy. Not stuck in jobs we don’t like so much that take up the majority of
our lives! Now, I’m not telling anyone to
leave their jobs. Next thing you know
I’m receiving a bunch of e-mails saying yada yada yada…you told me to do
it! Nuh uh!
So here’s
what you do. I stumbled on a few tips from a Forbes magazine article titled
“What to do if you hate your job” written by Jacquelyn Smith.
Here are a few of them...
Here are a few of them...
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2. Figure out if it’s you or the job you’re
unhappy with. Determine whether the
things you’re unhappy with have to do with you, or the job. This should help you figure out if moving is
the right move.
3. Talk to your direct report. Let your
boss know. There may be ways you can
improve the situation, Brook says.
4. Set your career goals. Where do you want to be in the next five
years. Brooks asks, “will your current
role help you get there? If not, what would? And how can you move toward that?”
These questions tend to put things into perspective for you.
5. Look
for opportunities within the company that you can see yourself doing. Maybe
there are other positions within the company that you may be interested
in. Involve yourself with projects or
initiatives in the company that would make you happy helping to improve the
working experience.
6. Don’t take it out on others. It’s never OK to be miserable on the job and treat your
colleagues and clients unfavorably. No
one likes a miserable gus.
So with that
said…
Whatever your desires, whatever you wish to do, you can do it! Get out there, figure it out AND JUST DO IT!
“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined.” - Henry David Thoreau
Signed,
3 comments:
I love my job. It allows me to express myself, utilize and continuously develop my most prized gift/talent. For the most part it’s not terribly stressful and I’m very well compensated…. There are times when my job can be a bit challenging depending on the project. There are also times when I’m extremely busy and there are those days when I have some free time to do a little personal work, which is even better.
However, if finances permitted I would be stay at home mom. I've heard many women speak about needing a break from their kids. I know that children can be very loud and have their spats etc but I've never experienced that. The noise really doesn’t bother me. Maybe I have a lot of patience, maybe something is wrong with me. People always ask how do I look so young and ask how do I stay so petite. My response is “it’s the kids, they keep me on toes.” Consequently, I’ve always loved children … long before I had my own. All I know is that I would much rather be the traditional housewife. I jus' love taking care of my home and not having to compromise my mommy/wifely duties and bonding time etc. because of my career.
Now, I could always use a housekeeper (keeping things in order with little people running around can be challenging) but a babysitter, no.
Different strokes for different folks I guess!
Thank you for the comment! And you are very right, different strokes for different folks. You are very fortunate to be in a job/career that you really enjoy. That within itself is a blessing. Our jobs take up so much time of our lives that it is very important to be happy in what you are doing ESPECIALLY when your job takes you away from your children. Now, don't get me wrong, I would love to be a stay at home mom as well. My children are my everything. They are in school as well, so during the day when they're gone is more than enough time for me to enjoy my hobbies or work on my personal business. I have a housekeeper but need a babysitter when adult time (dinner, movies, etc.) is needed. Which is also very important! lol.
Candilaria
I concur!!!!! Of course adult time is a must!! That goes without saying. My husband and I manage to squeeze in adult time just about every night after 8pm (bedtime) *smile. And as for dinners etc, we take full advantage of the Able Grandparent & Aunts Babysitting Service! Afterall it's free lol. If our pick up hours run us into the am.... that's a job for the aunts. A quick movie is more so for the grandparents (can't keep grammie n papa up too late na) lol.
Cheers!
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