The Power of...The Vagina

Part Four & Final Part of the #ILoveMyVagina Series

The power that I speak of is not the controlling kind of power. Nope, not the power to "control" your partner to get them to do what you want becoming disillusioned or consumed by the cookie. Also, not the power of men feeling they need to "own" it.

The power I speak of is the culmination of the previous parts of this series, 

The need for women to have power over their vaginas.

While it does not define us, I cannot help but to say that the vagina is THE most sacred, MOST exclusive and unique characteristic that sets us apart from men. 

For far too long we've allowed our vaginas to be defined by others. "Others" meaning men AND even other women. From the way it smells, the feeling of shame that comes with touching it, the way it looks, to ultimately what we thing about it. In many ways this convolutes what our personal preferences really are, preventing us from discovering what we like for ourselves.

Remember, take your time. Get to know it. It's naturally yours.

We HAVE to intimately know this part of our bodies because it is THE most central part of womanhood. 

For that reason, it is imperative that we take the power back and demand the respect both men AND women ought to have towards the vessel of life! A woman's relationship with her vagina could change her life. Take control of, embrace, and harness your sexuality and even more powerful... 

Knowing, learning and eventually loving your vagina is a pathway for you to tap into your courage, your dreams, your power, and your destiny.

Sincerely, 
#ILoveMyVagina, Candilaria

What does yours look like...Yes, your Vajayjay!

Part Three of the #ILoveMyVagina Series


Well, go ahead have a look. 

Take your camera phone (cuz who uses mirrors anymore...geesh),

Relax and get comfy, 

and snapSHOT that pu**y 
(notice, I did not say "snapCHAT that pu**y" becuz that  ♫♫ "goes down in the DM" ♫♫...KIDDING!). 

Take a good look at it. I'll wait.......


All done? What do you think? Some of the responses may surprise you...


Unfortunately, the majority of women think the appearance of their vagina isn't very appealing. Some may even go as far as to describe it using words like horrible or disgusting. Really?!

A quick FYI for today's post; We tend to refer to both the internal and the external genitals of the lower region as the vagina. However, when we talk about the external appearance of the "vagina" what we are really referring to are the size, shape, colour, etc. of the Vulva. The vulva includes the mons pubis (pubic mound, aka the top piece lol), the outer and inner lips, the clitoris, and the external openings of the urethra and vagina. But for ease and for this series I will continue to use the word vagina to describe it all.

So, I want you to check this out...

A gallery of vagina.

Sculpture done by artist, Jamie McCartney, The Great Wall of Vagina

You already looked for one similar to yours, didn't you? LOL. It's okay, I did the same! But look at that. Vaginas of all shapes and sizes and they are all beautiful. This wall of vagina obviously does not depict ALL the vaginas in the world so please don't get bent out of shape if you don't see one quite like yours.

Women, vaginas vary from woman to woman just as any other part of our bodies. 

There is no specific way for your vagina to look. 

The most visible part of your vagina are your labia (outer and inner lips). They can be thin, fat, not there at all, short, or long. For some the inner lips may stick out from the outer lips. The color of the skin of the labia maybe the same tone as your skin, but sometimes it is darker, or even lighter. The left lip may be juicier than the right lip, asymmetrical, just like your breasts.

And let's talk about the amazing little "pink canoe" aka the clitoris (which should be your favorite part for obvious reasons. Do people realize its only purpose is for pleasure?!). Also, did you know that 3/4 of this organ is under your skin?! This little critter of fun can range in length from 1/4 inch to 1 1/4 inch and can be small and hidden or large and hang.

I've read about Vagina Rejuvenation (which is essentially a facelift for your vagina). Ughhhh....and you know what, it evokes the same thoughts I have about what I mentioned in part one of this series. The fact that women will not only go to great unncessary lengths for the "perfect" scent but will do the same to achieve the "perfect" looking punani. For what? For who?


Fu*k that.

Give yourself some love and let go of all the negative thoughts you have towards it. Hey, take pictures even. But make sure you keep them in your own private stash!!! LOL

It's naturally yours and it's naturally beautiful!

Smell it.

Touch it.

Look at it. 

Admire it. 

LOVE IT!



If you missed the first parts one and two of the #ILoveMyVagina series, please click on the links below:

Part One - What is your vagina supposed to smell like...

Part Two - Ladies, do you touch it....



Signed,

#IThinkMyPussyIsPretty, Candilaria


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LADIES, DO YOU TOUCH IT....

Do you touch your #VAGINA?!

Welcome to PART TWO of the #ILoveMyVagina Series

Picture used from dailytelegraph.com.au

So, for my International gals, another name for your vagina here in The Bahamas is crabbie. Even that word has its own variations, i.e. crab. Anyhoo, let's not veer too far off topic but I wanted to quickly touch on it so you can toss that name on over to the other 238 existing names, make it 239. You learn something new every day, eh!

The kind of touching your vagina I'm talking about isn't the regular day-to-day touching, like when you're in the shower cleaning it or when you have to insert a tampon during your period (and for ya'll who frowning their faces at the word tampon, I gat something for ya'll for another time). No, I'm not talking about that kind of touch.

Do you take your finger (better yet two) and insert them into your lovebox (or apply them to your "clit"oris) and give yourself an orgasm for the heck of it. No, not your partner doing it for you, YOU doing it for YOURSELF?! 

Do you pleasure YOURSELF by masturbating?

I see you looking all bewildered and stuff. I know what you're thinking.  "Why on earth do I need to play with myself, I have a man, thank you?!"  My answer to that is...

Why on earth would you not?! It's YOUR vagina, isn't it?

Masturbation has long been a topic that women, in particular, do not discuss.  Perhaps because of the embarrassing nature it's carried for women for such a long time. Why is it okay and accepted to know that around say 12 years old a young boy is allowed (even expected) to "jake his snake" while the girls are left to feel ashamed and it become something we just don't talk about. Do they not experience the same feelings and raging hormones as their male counterparts? It's no wonder why men are seemingly more comfortable with their bodies than us women. They are allowed to explore themselves! **Side note - who makes this topic uncomfortable for who though? Is it men or is it the women? Interesting thought. Carry on.**

I'm not saying that women do not masturbate at all, since, according to research, women 18 and older have done it at least once (see what I mean, do girls really only start at 18?) but how often do they do it? For the majority, not a lot. Once married probably not at all ("Because I gat a man!"). Crazy, huh?! I guarantee your male partner is doing it even with having a healthy sex life with you (according to your relationship). Whether you know about it or not. 

Solo sex comes in a couple of practices. You can stimulate yourself solely with finger penetration (Yes, there are women out there that can have an orgasm with only penetration! Which is only a mere 24% of women btw. Lucky mofos.) or you can give yourself an orgasm by direct stimulation of the clitoris. Some women masturbate manually while others prefer to use toys like the bullet (I highly recommend this little pocket rocket of goodness). 

Masturbation offers quite a few benefits. Well, let's see...

1. It can be used as a natural way to gain some relief from a headache. If at the office, sneak a quick bathroom break.

2. Recent studies suggest that cervical infections can be reduced by frequent masturbation. That's pretty important, isn't it?

3. It releases the same happy chemicals as sex. Who doesn't like HAPPY.

4. It's practice for when you perform it for your partner. Which he/she would absolutely love btw. 

5. You become more comfortable with your body. And what woman doesn't want that?

6. It can ease menstrual cramps. No need to medicate!

7. Multiple orgasms. Enough said.

8. It relieves stress.

9. It helps to put you to sleep. 

And THE MOST important, masturbation helps you to....

10. Enjoy YOUR sexuality. Own YOUR sexuality. YOUR OWN WAY.

Get to know YOUR body and what it likes. You shouldn't have to decide what you like based on only what others have exposed you to. Frankly, if you don't know what excites you then how do you expect your partner to know? It's 2016 people, first and foremost, YOU are responsible for YOUR sexuality! 


Signed, 
#ITouchMyCrabbie (often...hehe), Candilaria


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WHAT IS YOUR VAGINA SUPPOSED TO SMELL LIKE....

Part 1 - #ILoveMyVagina Series

Okay, so The Vagina is a hot topic. I Googled how many different names we call it and the number is up to 238. That's damn ridiculous! It's simply a topic that everyone LOVES to talk about. From the thickness (or lack thereof) of the labia (aka "lips"), the texture, whether it sports the puff or is lasered smooth, to of course the way it smells.

courtesy of shape.com

I remember having a conversation about vagina in the office I used to work in and one of my coworkers (and friend, you know who you are...LOL) smirked with confidence and advised that her vagina "smells like flowers". Well, I couldn't help but to break out into roaring laughter. Not only because of what she was saying but because my friend is a funny gal. I asked her if that was the case ALL the time. She closed her eyes and answered, "why yes". 

Truly, I never quite heard someone say that before until then.  However, since then, I keep hearing the same thing over and over from numerous women. Women want their vagina's to smell good. I get it. But to smell like a bed of roses? That's NOT what vagina is supposed to smell like! What is it supposed to smell like you ask?

Vagina is supposed to smell like, well, VAGINA...better yet YOUR VAGINA!

There is a difference between wanting it to smell and feel fresh (free from sweat) than wanting that freshness to smell like a meadow filled with gardenias. It's important to keep in mind that the smell can come in a range of smells and it changes not only with the woman but also the things women do. It's unnerving to listen to what great lengths women will go to to ensure their "pussy" smells great. **Can women please stop douching, it does more harm than good by messing with the balance of good and bad bacteria** The smell  changes depending on where you are at in your menstrual cycle (please step away from the damn scented pads and tampons!). Some women have a naturally strong scent while others have no scent. Strong scents do not equate to bad scent. 

We must accept our scent.

I also understand that while it's not supposed to smell like fresh cut flowers it's also not supposed to smell like Potter's Cay dock or your local fish market either (which I recommend a quick visit to your GYN if it does).

Let the inside take care of itself and concentrate on the outside. To clean the outside of your vagina, all it needs is some nice warm water. That's it! If you insist on using soap find a very mild one. One that will not interfere with the natural pH balance (personally, I insist that you keep it as natural as possible and nix the soap). Let's also keep in mind that the glands near the vagina secretes pheromones that are meant to attract your partner. You don't want to mask those by deodorizing it, do you? Think about it. This is one of the most the ways your partner will EVER experience YOU in your purest, most natural state. What an incredible thought!

I'm a natural gal. I allow my vagina to do it's job. The vagina is wonderfully and beautifully amazing and it really doesn't need much intervention. If it's not doing so well, it WILL let you know. 

Trust your vagina.


Signed, 
#ILoveMyVagina, Candilaria

P.S - Share this with your daughters! (age appropriate of course!)