We have failed our daughters because we have allowed them to believe they can live like us, do what we do, wear what we wear, talk like we talk, listen to the music that we listen to and dance like some of us do.....some of us dance as if we are having sex.
We have failed because we did not and do not protect them for the reality shows, the videos on You tube that teach you how to twerk, the music that tells 'Bands will make her dance....' we did not protect them.
There is a woman reading this right now who watches her daughter get dressed in clothing that is too short, too tight, too revealing for her age but still you allow her to wear it...as a matter of fact you bought this outfit for her.
You are failing your daughter.
Your daughter may look ready but she is not ready to wear a pair of shorts that show her camel toe. Why isn't she ready you may ask. She isn't ready because she is a girl.
Give your girl a chance to be a girl. When she is a young woman then change accordingly.
I witnessed an eighth grade girl give a boy a lap dance while he was laying down on his back on a stage. I watched a seventh grade boy pump a girl by holding her hips while he was standing behind her. I watched twelve and thirteen year olds bend over and touch their toes as soon as a song started. This is what we have taught them.
You may be thinking that no, not me I don't dance this way, certainly not in front of my daughter but does your daughter have a television in her room with access to cable tv? Does your daughter have a computer in the privacy of her own room? Does she have an ipad or a smart phone to watch, receive or send messages at will? Do you have conversations in front of your daughter with your girlfriends? Do you wear clothing too tight and revealing? Do you buy clothes that look like your clothes for your daughter? Does your daughter spend time with a godmother or aunt who listens to 100 Jamz while your daughter is in the car? Does your little girl know the words to songs meant for your listening ears? Is your camel toe showing when you get dressed?
Take a moment.....what message are you communicating to your daughter by what you do?
Your daughter, any girl you come in contact with is watching you.
Today I was invited to speak to these same girls. I was asked to explain how to dress and carry themselves. Imagine if every woman our girls saw was a woman impeccably dressed. Imagine if we spoke honorably, we displayed etiquette. I would not need to speak at a seminar because our girls would have appropriate behavior modeled for them.
We have failed our girls.
WE HAVE FAILED OUR GIRLS!!!!!!
Until I blog again,
Tiffany
