10 Things Married Working Mothers Never Say!

1.  "Oh you don't want to eat the chicken mummy cooked? No problem baby, I will cook something entirely different just for you."

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2.  "Who me? I don't need a break!"

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3.  "Mom, you don't have to keep the children, I know you're tired."

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4.  "No alcohol for me.  I'm good, thanks!" 

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5.  "I really enjoy going to school plays on a Sunday.  I don't need the one day I have to be off."

6.  "Oh please honey, come inside the bathroom while I tinkle and let's have a full conversation of how your day went."

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7.  "I can't wait to get home to fold those two loads of laundry."

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8.  To your boss: "Of course I can stay late to help you finish this project."

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9. "I absolutely love waking up at 5:00am every morning! It really gets me going."

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10. "Sweetie, how come you don't have any homework tonight? Darnnit, I was really looking forward to doing long division with you!"

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What are some of the things you never say? :)


Hope this puts a smile on your face.  Enjoy the weekend ladies!


Signed, 
"It's after 5pm already? I need another hour!"
Candilaria

What's In Your Purse?

Today is...'A Few of My Favourite Things' Friday...

Below are a few items that are imperative that I have in my purse at all times and WILL warrant a near freak out and melt down if I am missing them.

Okay...so maybe I'm running out just a tad bit with the freak out and melt down part but you just had to know the level of seriousness I'm talking about. LOL.

A Few of Candilaria's Favourite things...

1.  My Journal; For all the important things I learn throughout the day

2.  Married Working Mothers Business cards; Must have our business cards on hand because you never know when you have an opportunity to talk about what you have going on!

3.  Mac Mineralize Skin Finish Natural; This is a new development since I am not one to wear makeup but to add a little more colour to these cheeks I like to gloss this over my tired looking face. Beyonce, listen girl, some days you just don't "[wake] up like dis". HA!

4.  Palmer's Cocoa Butter Lip Balm, Dark Chocolate & Cherry; I suffer from dry lips and so I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this.  I found it in our local Drugstore, Lowe's Pharmacy and it has become my most favourite thing.  With a tint of colour, I don't need lipstick!

5. Apple Headphones; Do I really need to explain why? If you are a music lover like myself then no explanation needed. Must have!

6. Bigelow Green Tea with Mint; Yes, I carry a packet or two in my purse because you never know when the feeling will hit for some good 'ole green tea and it HAS to taste right.  So what better way to ensure having the good stuff than by bringing my own tea?! Makes sense to me!

7.  iphone; Not pictured.  I should have used my husbands camera to take a picture of that, huh. LOL.


So there you have it, a few of my favourite things (for the moment at least).  



What sort of things are must haves in your purse?  Things that you absolutely cannot leave the house with!



Signed, 
Hyped...It's Friday!...Candilaria

What Do You Really Want?

Dear Readers,

Listed below are different scenarios for marriage. As you read, one of these scenarios should describe your present relationship. There are some of us who would not change our current scenario but there are some of us who dream of another scenario. Please read all of the scenarios and make a choice. If you are happy with your present scenario then pick that scenario but if you would like to make a change, then pick the scenario you would like to change to.

For example, I am married with children while both my husband and I are employed. Number 8 is my present scenario. However, I dream of changing that scenario to Number 6!

Choose one...only one!











1. Married without children and not employed while husband employed?
2. Married without children and self employed while husband employed?
3. Married without children while employed and husband not employed?
4. Married without children while both employed?
5. Married with children and not employed while husband employed?
6. Married with children and self employed while husband employed?
7. Married with children while employed and husband not employed?
8. Married with children while both employed?
10. Divorced?
11. Divorced with children?

Instructions:

Respond by clicking on the Post a Comment button below ONLY. Type your age, the number of your present scenario and then the number of the scenario you would change to.  Remember, you may choose your present scenario if you are happy in that scenario.

 For example, I would type the following answer based on my life.
 Age 41, Number 8 to Number 6

No name needed. Let's remain anonymous!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
(If you respond on our Facebook page we will know who you are....we don't want to know! Please click on the post a comment below and click anonymous.)

Stay tuned for the follow up post based on all of our responses.
Until I blog again,
Tiffany

How we have "Me Time" as Married Working Mothers

How?


Just do it!


1.  Get over the Guilt of wanting to have "me time"...

2.  Next, once you've convinced yourself that you absolutely deserve and NEED this time - PLAN.  This is one we can't escape.  Although I wish all of the planning would be done for me sometimes, the daily routine of life falls on us so it's imperative that we make the necessary steps to make "me time" happen. From deciding what to do and where to go to organising the children and husband.  So we Plan.

And that's it.  It's that simple.  In just two simple steps you could be on your way to enjoying "me time" by yourself or with your girlfriends.


Candilaria and Tiffany's "Me Time"...

Tiffany and I decided that we needed "me time".  We have no qualms about feeling that we deserve it. Nope.  None at all.

It's "Me O'clock"

We planned to become tourists in our own country and embarked on a journey to Blue Lagoon Island.  It had been years and years since either of us had visited the island and were super stoked.


At 8:30 a.m. on a beautiful day we boarded the Dolphin Encounter boat - with some challenges getting there of course but nonetheless we made it.

Top Left - Our view from the boat.;
Top Right - Our first "Usie" for the day
Bottom Left - Tiffany and I with our drinks and bartender, David;
Bottom Right - We rigged up a little morning drink. Nothing like a Mimosa to kick off the day!

Welcome to Blue Lagoon!  We picked an awesome spot to cop a squat.  We lounged, we explored, we talked, we laughed, we swam, we read, we slept.  It was a perfect day.

Our colourful cups that contained the right kind of drink we needed and allowed us to have those "sweet naps" throughout the day :) 

We were having such a great time, somehow we missed our boat back. Hmmmm...not sure how that happened.  So what did we do?  Nothing.  We hung out some more. We ended up hitching a ride on the boat that transports the employees back and forth!

We topped the day off by meeting up with another absolutely fabulous Married Working Mother and the day "me time" turned into night "me time".  When I arrived home, my children were tucked in bed and fast asleep and my husband was very thankful for the day I had (wink wink).  And so was I.

Before I end this post I must share a story.  

While swimming/floating in the crystal clear waters at Blue Lagoon the most terrifying thing that could ever happen to a married woman happened.  I lost my wedding band! I felt it slip from my finger as we were swimming back to shore.  The terror on my face signalled to Tiffany that something was wrong. I became paralysed. After my freak out session, bystanders made their way over to us to see if they could assist.  A gentleman with the use of a Lifeguard's goggles dove in search for Mr. Thompson's wife's ONE good ring. Like so many women who lost their rings to the ocean I was hoping that I was the exception.  That my ring would be found.  And....

He found it!!!!!!!  Eric (pictured below) found my ring.  All was right with the world once again and I resumed to my "me time".

"Me Time" has become our favourite topic because we know how much we need it.  How much women need it.  As we mentioned during our presentation at The Pretty Brown Girl Bahamas Conference in May, we consider ourselves experts on the subject matter and we are here to show you how you can do it too!  We are here to help you. :) :)


How important are you to yourself?!  

Where are you on your own priority list? 

Make the time for you. Everyone around you including YOU will thank you for it. 



Signed, 

I (Heart) "Me Time", Candilaria

       

THOUGHTS OF THE DAY

We are exhausted. We are frustrated.  We are happy.  We are excited. We are sad. We are miserable.  We are beautiful.  We are full of love. We are blessed. 

We are every emotion that ever existed. 

Answering the "How are you?" question is not an easy one.

When asked this question by another woman, and there is a slight pause before a response, we know what that means.  It means you are everything and nothing at all, all at the same time. We are beautiful messes and we can never really describe exactly how we feel at any given time because we change so quickly!  

Everyone is doing the best they can.  

Being a Married Working Mother isn't easy and no one really knows if they are doing it "right". What they do know is that they are doing what's best for them and their families.

So let's be gentler to the women around us.  We are all going through it.  We can learn from each other.  

Signed, 



Be encouraged, Candilaria

A LOVE LETTER TO ALL THE TIRED MARRIED WORKING MOTHERS EVERYWHERE - CANDILARIA'S VERSION

A friend of mine sent a link to me on Friday, click here to read.  I didn't read it when she sent it because I was driving and by the time I got home I had forgotten all about it.  This morning I remembered the message and opened it up and realized I was meant to read this today. Not Friday, and not Saturday but today.

It was such a great read that it inspired me to write my own Love Letter to all you tired Mamas.  I mean that in a good way! 

Today, I felt tired, just plain 'ole tired and the link lifted my spirits, so I say to you...


Dear Tired Married Working Mothers, 

I love that no matter how much you want a break from your children, the minute you are away from them all you can think about is them and how much you can't wait to see them again.

I love the fact that you feel perfectly fine when you are not around them because you know they are in good hands.

I love how you can wake up early in the morning and get yourself ready so that when the others wake you don't have to worry about yourself.

I love that even though you've made breakfast you still make something different for the child that doesn't eat what you've made.  You make it because you don't want to send them to school hungry.

I love how beautiful you look after a late night of working only to rise early in the morning for another day.

I love that you need to grab a glass of wine to calm down or for absolutely no reason at all.

I love how you can hear your child call you mummy 30 times in a row and it not affect you.

I love how you can hear your child call you mummy 30 times in a row and it drive you nuts.

I love that you try to be the loudest Mamma cheering your child on at Sports day and feeling super ecstatic when your baby wins.

I love that you know just which snacks and flavour juice each child likes and get a bit disappointed when you realize you put them in the wrong lunch bags.

I love that you forgot "wear your own clothes day" was scheduled on a different day than the day you sent your baby girl in her own clothes.  So she ended up having an awesome day spending it at her grandparents house instead.

I love that you can walk through the door at work and look around the office and say "I am not for this today!" and all the women around you understand just what you mean. **tomorrow is Monday!**

I love that you get frustrated by the incessant requests from your children but somehow you try to fulfill them all. I did say try. lol.  Some requests just aren't happening!

I love that you allow your child(ren) in your bed in the middle of the night knowing that it's the end of your good sleeping for the rest of the night.  

I love that you give them a chance to crack the eggs into the bowl for breakfast but more shell fell in the bowl than egg

I love that you break out the big iPad to record their performance at the School Play blocking the view for everyone behind you. But you don't care, your baby is on stage!

I love that you are always changing the decor of your child's room because you're never satisfied with the way it looks.

I love that you go without in order to provide for your babies

I love how excited you get when listening to your son's most outrageous ideas and adventures

I love that you show compassion even during your hard times.

I love that no matter how much you may complain about the daily grind you still do it and not because you have to.

I love that even though you can do things easier and quicker by yourself you let your child(ren) help you and end up having to clean up the messes that they make.

I love that you try to keep your cool when the above happens :)

I love that you are strong and weak at the same time and knowing that it's OK to be both

I love that you hold things down for everyone around you.


Married Working Mothers, continue on this wonderful roller coaster called Motherhood.  You are doing a great job even when you feel like you're not. Don't forget, we are all in this together!


Love, 
Candilaria

COCKTAILS & CONVERSATIONS

Soon it will be Friday night,

Let's decide to try with all our might,

To drop everything and make the decision

To join MWMs for some cocktails and conversation.

We will be meeting at Twisted Lime Restaurant & Sports Bar @ 6:30p.m. located in the Sandy Port Marina Village.

First five ladies receive your first Mojito on MWMs!