Dear Readers,
Listed below are different scenarios for marriage. As you read, one of these scenarios should describe your present relationship. There are some of us who would not change our current scenario but there are some of us who dream of another scenario. Please read all of the scenarios and make a choice. If you are happy with your present scenario then pick that scenario but if you would like to make a change, then pick the scenario you would like to change to.
For example, I am married with children while both my husband and I are employed. Number 8 is my present scenario. However, I dream of changing that scenario to Number 6!
Choose one...only one!
1. Married without children and not employed while husband employed?
2. Married without children and self employed while husband employed?
3. Married without children while employed and husband not employed?
4. Married without children while both employed?
5. Married with children and not employed while husband employed?
6. Married with children and self employed while husband employed?
7. Married with children while employed and husband not employed?
8. Married with children while both employed?
10. Divorced?
11. Divorced with children?
Instructions:
Respond by clicking on the Post a Comment button below ONLY. Type your age, the number of your present scenario and then the number of the scenario you would change to. Remember, you may choose your present scenario if you are happy in that scenario.
For example, I would type the following answer based on my life.
Age 41, Number 8 to Number 6
No name needed. Let's remain anonymous!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Stay tuned for the follow up post based on all of our responses.
Until I blog again,
Tiffany
It's Monday, I'm at work...
and I'm in a funk....
Why you ask? Read the first line again...LOL
Long gone are the days of very clear cut roles of men and women, more specifically husbands/wives and fathers/mothers. The lines have become so blurred we really can't say if a task should fall under the role of the husband/wife or father/mother.
Society is so far removed from the times when we had clear "boundaries" that matters between men and women become difficult.
Once again, Tiffany and I would love to thank all the women who burned their bras for Woman's Rights...blank stare...we really showed the men how independent we could be! But for real, it's time to stop. LOL. This "going to work" is for the birds!
Let me be a stay-at-home mother any day, with a housekeeper AND babysitter of course. LOL...I'm just joking...I'm just serious.
Look, have you ever been frustrated when your hubby always has something going on? They always seem to have this meeting, that meeting, toastmasters, football practice, "oh a friend needs help with this" or "oh, I have to go take care of that". The thing is YOU have the same kind of things going on too but the difference is, your stuff is ON TOP of managing the children and their activities!
Do men still feel they ought to just be the providers and that's it? Can we accept this mentality in today's society? Nope. We cannot.
Not in a society where women have become financial contributors to the home, no?
How involved do you think husbands/fathers should be in the day-to-day operations of the home? How committed should women be to their jobs/careers? Or does this depend on the dynamics of the family?
Do you think men could handle a full day of work, running errands and other activities while managing the kids all by themselves AND be okay with that? What about multiple days?! Or indefinitely?! Keep in mind, they are not stay-at-home dads! My guess is, no! So here lies the problem. We end up doing pretty much everything. LOL.
I know there are husbands out there that do just as much or, in a few rare cases, more than the wife. I know a few scenarios like the latter. A few. **Side Thought**It's funny though - people are more inclined to give praise to men for taking on the role of caretaker/homemaker while his wife who is the breadwinner and taking care of their family financially will not receive that same kind of praise. Hmmmm...that's deep. Is it because it's not the "natural way"?
So ladies, it seems as though burning our bras for equality may have caused us a little more work and a lot more headache! On top of what we already were, Wives and Mothers, we've added Work. YAY! Though I feel it is important and necessary for us to have the choice to work, it really isn't a choice anymore, but a necessity.
So here we are Married, Mothers and Working!
What are the roles in your home? Is there total integration? Or do you have a clear division?
Husbands, I know you're reading....we would love for you to chime in on this discussion. And of course Married WORKING Mothers feel free to express yourselves, bras were burnt so you could! LOL
HAPPY MONDAY! :)
Signed,
I like my bra the way it is, unburned
Candilaria
