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Yesterday was Parent-Teacher Conference Day! It was an enjoyable day meeting a variety of pleasant and supportive parents.
By now, all of you should have met your child's teacher. (If you haven't you should be ashamed!)
With that said, by now, all of you have determined whether you like or dislike your child's teacher. If you approve of the teacher great, because you have an entire school year with this individual. If you disapprove yikes, because you have an entire school year with this individual.
If you like your child's teacher she/he probably likes you too! If you don't like your child's teacher he/she probably doesn't like you either!
WHAT? How dare a teacher not like a parent! Oh believe me, based on some of the parental behavior I have seen in my lifetime, not liking a parent can be quite easy!
Yes I said it! Are you shocked? But why? Teachers have feelings too! More importantly, parents can hurt a teacher's feelings. The nasty notes or email, the choice to report to the principal without talking to teachers first, the gossiping with other parents, the cussin' and carryin' on outside of classroom doors in front of children...I can go on and on with endless stories of how parents treat teachers yet amazingly, they expect teachers to brush it all off!
The professional teachers contain their true feelings for parents far far away from their students but I will tell you a trade secret... psst, you yea you, when you hurt your child's teacher's feelings, your child's teacher will hesitate to love your child the way she/he planned. Teachers love children. How can we not? They spend hours with us and do and say the darndest things.
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But as easily as we can fall in love with your child, it is also easy to withdraw and love cautiously!
SAY IT AIN'T SO!!!!! Sorry. And here's why. When you present yourself to be an asshole of a parent your child's teacher will do whatever she/he can to avoid having to deal with your crazy a&^!
The moral of the story is your relationship with your child's teacher affects your child's entire school year!
Have you ruined your relationship with your child's teacher? Is your teacher standoffish with you? Do you feel like your child is being treated differently than the other children?
Don't fret! I can help. Before I do, here are a few common truths.
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Teachers do not wake up in the morning and plot against you nor your child.
Your child's words are not the gospel truth. Another version from an adult can be plausible.
Teachers have more than one child in their classroom, at a minimum twenty more like twenty-five unless your child goes to a designer school where you are teaching them to be catered too. (0ops sorry, I let that thought escape! Happy catering!)
Teachers do not live at school. They have lives! Real lives they enjoy just like you enjoy your life.
School is the practice place for the real world. Teachers are preparing your child for life as well as the next grade. Our rules, words and actions are based on a scientific teacher theory mastered in teacher school Class 101, 201 and 301!
Now, please allow me to speak on behalf of your child's teacher to share with you all the things she/he cannot say!
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- Let's smile and say good morning to one another even if we both woke up on the wrong side of the bed.
- Let's agree to communicate the good the bad and the ugly. I will share good news about your child, I will share when he/she makes bad choices and I will share disappointing news but the bad news will only help us work towards improvement. Please feel free to do the same. I like to receive good news too. It makes me feel appreciated and valued.
- Let's follow the school rules. I did not make them. I think some of our school rules are stupid too but in life there are laws, laws which were made to be followed. If you have never argued with the judge about the validity of a law, please don't argue with me about the laws of our school.
- Let's respect one another's professional integrity. I will never come to your job and call you an idiot when you send your daughter to school with her shoulders out on dress up day or your second grade son to school with a cell phone to remember to call his uncle because he may forget to do school pick up. Please do not come to my classroom to call me an idiot when I make mistakes!
- Let's believe in one another. Please believe I am a good teacher when you first meet me if only for the reason that the school has employed me. I vow to believe you are a good parent if only for the reason you brushed your teeth and put on clothes and ensured your child did the same before walking into my classroom.
- Let's be honest. You and I both know your child's strengths and weaknesses. Forget excuses. No judgments. Let's problem solve to turn those weaknesses into strengths. I want to help. Seriously!
- Let's respect one another's time.
- Let's think before we speak. Trust me I know how to cuss you out just like you know how to cuss me out! If you do cuss me out, apologize!
- Let's agree your child is our number one priority. Not me nor you!
- Let's be good examples for your child. He/she is watching us!
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On a personal note, I have always had great relationships with parents. The golden rule is golden for a reason and not aqua!
As a parent, I consider my children's teachers to be a notch below family. Channing and Chase are with their teachers for hours and hours each day. Their teachers are that extra uncle or aunt.
Think of your child's teacher as their protector while away from you. In September you agreed to entrust your greatest asset to a stranger. If I were you I would get to know this stranger, befriend this stranger and who knows, one day you may call them friend!
Until I blog again,