It's Okay!

1. It's okay to watch sports if only to look at the tattoos.
2. It's okay to enjoy working with your child to complete their project                 because you are drinking wine.
3. It's okay to cancel a nail appointment because you spent your money on          poster board for your child's project.
4. It's okay to clean in your pajamas.
5. It's okay to not go to church because Sunday School is closed on the last
    Sunday of every month.

Channing and Chase after church. I'll be honest not today.... Sunday School was closed!

6. It's okay to feel guilty that your children watch too much television but            not have the energy to find something else to do with them.
7. It's okay to not call a friend because you realize you have nothing in                common anymore.
8. It's okay to hate the Crayola or any other company that makes crayons.
9. It's okay to think you are the coolest wife ever!
10. It's okay to love your life in spite of all the little details you would                   change.


School has been in almost a month now.

One word....Homework. Two words....Homework sucks!

Why is it that when I arrived home at 7:00 p.m., my daughter's homework was not completed? Bedtime is at 8:30 p.m.

Ok, maybe I can be a bit too hard on my daughter, BUT, we all know what our children are capable of doing.  Every child is different.  Some very independent and others need a little push.  My daughter, oozes independence, very philosophical and an analytical thinker.  For example, when she was having a bath the other day, she uttered very logically, "Mummy, there should be a faucet for warm water."  She is wise beyond her years.

And so...

I admit, there are times when I forget that she is only just 6 years old.  6 year old children don't always feel like doing their homework.  They want to play! She didn't feel like doing her homework. 

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She cried, she whined, she made excuses, she pretended she could not find a pencil, she said and did everything she could to get out of doing her homework.

[Hey, as a grown adult, I can list the things I don't feel like doing. And some days I really want to cry and whine about it. So I KNEW how she felt. LOL.]

I wanted to scream.  In fact, I screamed at the top of my lungs in my head.  I wanted to cry too! It was too much. On top of helping her I had to deal with the 3 year old who also had homework but has an attention span of a goldfish...blank stare. lol.  He's not keeping still, up and down and all around. He ended up cutting up his homework page with his scissors instead of cutting out pictures to glue onto his homework page (I think that was due to his excitement of actually having homework to do).  Sighhhhhhh....No one was listening.

After a long day of solving other people's problems at work, my day had only JUST begun when I got home.  I was fatigued. Yes, I needed a drink on a Monday...

After I poured myself a wonderful glass of wine, I was more relaxed and was ready to go. Some women count to 10.  Some women meditate.  Some women go for a walk.  Some women have the patience of Job. Me? I have a glass of wine. #dontjudgeme #redwineisgoodfortheheart #europeansdrinkwinewitheverymeal #Tiffany,weshouldmovetoeurope. LOL.

The child's version of playing!

So, I devised a plan

For my younger kids (primary school age), here's what I try to do to ensure they are more relaxed when they do their homework.

1.  Relax time. (3:30 p.m.- 4:15 p.m.) When the kids arrive home, they have "relax time" for 45 minutes. That could mean watching a TV show, playing with their toys, jumping in the bed (I'm kidding, because that's dangerous...blank stare...but we all did it), etc. They need this time because they've just spent all day in school. However, make sure you limit this time.

2.  Snack time. (4:15 p.m. - 4:30 p.m.) Usually a healthy one they like.

3.  Begin homework. (4:30 p.m. - 5:30 p.m.)  I usually allocate an hour. Depending on which grade your child is in and the amount of homework he/she may have you will have to adjust the time.  Let them do what they can first. As parents we are so quick to jump in and help.  Let them figure out their way.  When they come across something they don't understand then explain but don't do it for them. (**I can already feel the frustration coming on**) Remind them that they can have play time when they have finished everything. (**of course if time permits**)

4.  Bath time. (5:30 p.m. - 6:00 p.m.) Mmmmm....nice warm bathe with bubbles.

5.  Dinner time. (6:30 p.m.) This is difficult. With parents coming home at later hours these days, it's not always possible to sit around the table together. Growing up, my family and I sat down for dinner all the time. Society has moved away from this over time.  Dinner time is a great time to really hear and pay attention to the "highs" and "lows" of everyone's day.  If you can at least do it once or twice during the work week, that's great too!

6.  Play time (7:15 p.m. - 8:00 p.m.) Use this as an incentive while they are doing their homework.  Be clear that there will be no "play time" if they do not complete the homework.  So don't act up!

7.  Reading time. (8:00 p.m.) Encourage your children to do at least 30 minutes of reading. This is incredibly important. You read too!  If they see you reading, they will be more inclined to read too. Set the example, right?!  Read to them and let them read to you.  Make it fun.

8.  Bedtime. (8:30 p.m.) After you've bonded during reading time.....Ahhhh....thought it would never come!  Bedtime! Tuck the little critters in bed and your "me time" begins! To prepare for tomorrow of course :)

Can you tell I'm all about systems?? How realistic is this schedule for you? Oh, I'm not sure.  I know it doesn't always have to go as planned but it provides me with a guideline.  Modify it to your family. Test it.  See how it goes!  

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It took my daughter AN HOUR AND A HALF to complete her homework but she did it. She now knows if she doesn't do what she HAS to do she won't be able to do what she WANTS to do. (**she didn't get her play time**) 

Do you fight with your child every night to do homework?  What methods do you use to get them to complete it before sun up!? :)  

a homework hater, Candilaria

Best Quote Ever!

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This is the best quote ever! 

We all know people who are insecure, who are not behaving as their authentic self for a number of reasons. When I read this quote I hear a very simple message.

"Tiffany, be yourself because you are brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous! When I show that I am brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous, everyone else around me will be brave enough to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous too!"

Let's be brave enough to be ourselves.
Let's be courageous enough to stop pretending.
Let's stop shrinking to please others but shine authentically!


That's me!
Fabulous at 40

Is it you too?
Until I blog again,

10 Habits for a Sane Married Working Mother

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We all have our mini melt downs from time to time, right?  Sometimes, the daily grind becomes too much.  You feel overwhelmed, tired, and just plain ole burnt out.

And rightfully so!  We have lots to do and limited time to do it in.

I've come up with some habits that I've picked up since school opened.  Some of these habits may feel like a chore itself but nonetheless they work.  They will get you from Monday to Friday and keep you sane! 

1.  Wake up early.  If you're like me, you like to sleep.  This one kinda sucks but it really is a wonderful thing.  There are so many benefits for waking up early. I am up at 5:00 a.m., an hour before my children.  This allows me to not only have quiet time to myself but to get a jump start on everything.  I put on the kettle for a cup of tea and I sit in silence in the living room and meditate for a few minutes.  I have a shower and get ready even before my children are awake.  Once I am ready everything falls into place. 

This leads me to habit number 2.

2. Prepare the night before.  This is definitely a must!  As much as I want to sit down and hang out when I get home from work I try not to.  Once the children are settled into bed, (around 8:30 p.m.) I start preparing for the next day.  Filling the water bottles, cutting and packaging the fruits, etc. Anything I know I can do in the evenings to avoid doing them in the morning, I do! This assists tremendously and frees up so much of your time in the morning.  You are able to have that quiet time to yourself without having to scramble around to pack school and lunch bags.

3. Go to bed early.  Easier said than done, I know. But if I am waking up at 5:00 a.m. I know I need to be in bed by 9:30 p.m. That's 8 hours of much needed sleep.  You wake up well rested and not looking totally busted.

4.  Meal Planning. This takes a little more work and of course a lot more planning.  I do most of my grocery shopping on Sundays. I purchase meat in bulk (can Married Working Mothers please get a tailored fit Phil's package!) on Saturdays.  I'm sure most of you have pinterest accounts, right?!  If not, GET ONE! I "pin" recipes that my family would enjoy and are easy enough to do in the evenings.  I choose 4 or 5 for the week and when I'm at the store pick up the ingredients for each recipe.  Season all the meat you will use for the week on Sunday and package them.  Voila!
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5.  Organization.  Having an unorganized house is one of my biggest pet peeves!  It's hard to do anything without having your house working like a well oiled machine.  Everything has to have a place.  Junk is the enemy.  It will creep into your life and take a hold of it.  You have to be able to find things when you need them AND you have to have a place for them when you are finished with them.

6.  Get your children involved.  Let's not spoil our children.  If they make a mess before bedtime, they need to clean it up.  Toys in the living room, in the bedroom, crayons spilled all over the table, etc.  Give them some responsibilities.  If your child is old enough, let them lay out their uniform, socks, and shoes the night before.  It will save you time!

7.  It is Okay to say "NO".  Just as the title says, it's okay to tell others you are unable to do the favour, or attend a function, or whatever the request is. It's Okay! The days when you are feeling overwhelmed, just say NO to requests that really aren't high on your priority list AND don't feel guilty about it.

8.  Do smaller chores.  Don't let things pile up.  If you do washing on a certain day that allows for clothes to mount.  If you have enough for a load, and I know you do on a daily basis, throw in  one load of clothes.  Get it out of the way.  Wipe down, straighten, and freshen up the bathroom. Do a quick sweep of key areas and you're good to go.

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9.  Have a glass of wine.  My favourite of course.  Don't be scared to pour yourself a lovely cup of Merlot, Pinot Noir or Grigio, whatever you like!  It will certainly take the "edge" off.

10. Create "ME" Time.  Last but not least, make time for YOU!  I've started boxing and training for the half marathon coming up in January.  This is my time.  My daughter asked me the other day if she could come to the gym with me.  My instinct was to say "yes baby", but I paused.  I paused because going to the gym and going jogging is for me.  It's a time where I am away from everything else and it gives me an opportunity to quiet my mind. It rejuvenates me.  Find something that does not include your husband and children.  Something you enjoy so you want to keep doing it.  It can be anything!  Art classes, exercising, dancing, joining a book club, etc. ANYTHING!

These habits should assist you in becoming a calm and organized MWM.  You may still have the occasional melt down (which is okay by the way) but you won't ALWAYS feel overwhelmed.

Pick one or two habits and keep at them for a while until they become second nature. When you feel comfortable with them add another one.  Take things one day at a time!

Which habits will you work on first?

a sane Candilaria

GUEST BLOG PART TWO: Christianity and The African

This entry is a follow-up from last week.   

Given that contemporary Bahamian society contains a plurality of religious and secular views on the meaning and purpose of God in relation to humanity it seems unfortunate to push all persons in a society toward a particular religious belief.  In situations like this, a culture of conforming to the dominant group, in this case, religion is typically experienced. With this in mind, this entry is a review of how Christianity in a pre-slavery and slavery context constructed negativity surrounding Blacks.  It is clear that early Christian theologians used these contextualized studies of Race and Body Politics as a basis for making universal theological claims. This practice of a dominant group pushing their views on a powerless group is a problem. By contrast, I offer history and practical suggestions toward a better life for Blacks.


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Throughout history, the interpretation of the Bible has played a critical role in the formation and promotion of race (racism) and sex (especially misogyny) dynamics.  The difference between the existence of Black and White, Male and Female, and the correlation of Black to evil and White to purity, were products of Christianity from very early times. 


In the Epistle of Barnabas (70-115 CE), the devil, the epitome of the Christian symbolism of evil is portrayed as Black in early Christian philosophy.  In his Greek Commentarium and Homilae in Canticum Canticorum, Origen presents an interpretation of the Black bride in Song of Songs 1:5-6 as representative of the Gentile (non-Jew) Church, which is said to be Black by virtue of its “illegitimate birth”, yet possessing a beauty only by forgiveness from God. 


Then the Church officially reinforced this predicament of beauty, carnality, and negativity about Blacks at the fifth-century Council of Toledo.  Also, Jerome’s translation of Song and Songs 1:5 as “I am black but beautiful” is rather interesting, if not interpretively suspicious.  In Hebrew the conjunction between the “black” and “beautiful” is a waw (meaning ‘and’) and even the Septuagint’s (one of the first versions of the Bible) translation uses kai (again meaning “and”).  However, Jerome translates the Hebrew waw as the Latin sed (meaning “but”), rather than et (meaning “and”), as if the fact of being beautiful is abnormal for a Black person. This language is the basis for the color prejudice that was present in Christian conversation long before the first use of term “race” in the fifteenth century.


The biblical “Cain” (after killing Abel) was depicted as Black in the medieval period with Negro features and the so called curse on Ham (Canaanite Curse) was also associated with Cain. From the days of St. Augustine, Christians had already linked Cain to the Jews.  However in 1146, this changed and in 1215, papal decree validated this position.


Based on these ideals of beauty that used skin color to support White Christianity’s fascination with the degradation of the Black Body, Enlightenment writers such as Hume and Kant assumed their racist views needed no evidence (White Privilege).

So by the time of slavery, when the first slave ship named “Jesus” landed on the shores of Africa, the Europeans viewed and treated Africans as soulless animals (not human) who lacked cerebral ability for intellect and morality. Also, Africans were deemed inferior because they were mainly Muslim or practitioners of African Traditional Religions (ATR’s).


With transatlantic slave-trading, Africans were fully reduced to the status of property. For those Africans who actually survived the journey across the Atlantic and social death or family displacement or decided not to commit suicide, the “new life” brought a new heave of abuses: children born into slavery, masters with the authority to murder, maim, rape, lynch, sexually and emotionally abuse, and place limits on education, religion (Islam and ATR’s) and movement.


As before, the Bible played a big role in the assault on the Black Body. To justify slavery’s regime, Anglican Bishop of London (1727) sanctioned slavery with his reading of 1 Corinthians 7:20-24; and many slaveholders in North America and the Caribbean appealed to the Bible as well (e.g., Gen. 9; 14:14; 14:18-20; 17:13; Exod. 12:43-45; 20:17; 21: 2-6; 21: 20-21; Lev. 25: 44-46; Deut. 23:15-16; Eph. 6:5-9). Evangelism of Blacks was not done on a large scale until the Great Awakening in the 1730’s.  Prior to that it was believed that Blacks had no soul, and with no soul (the part of the human body that will be judged in the Judgment) there was nothing to be saved by White Christianity’s “Jesus”.


Deconstructing the myths, however, reveals that the biblical myths are just that, myths.  They are not authentic or accurate, but are simply the duplications of views that take on the appearance of reality. These myths must be perpetuated by White Christianity (not only Whites, but persons who support, think, broadcast and continue the teachings) because the view of Blacks as emotive as oppose to intellectual, sub-human, criminal, diseased, evil and hypersexual is the basis of the . 


The religious concept of the wrongful Black Body is not new.  There was/is a very intentional history started by White Christianity to dehumanize Blacks. Where we cannot go wrong is blaming Jesus (the historical figure and the Christ) for the sinful efforts of the man-made social entity called "Christianity".  One cannot blame Jesus for what Christianity did. 

By detailing a historical review of the Christianity and the African Salve it is understandable that the efforts of Christianizing the Slaves were doomed before it ever started. The starting point of White Christianity in its method to the Black Body (and soul) is theologically inappropriate.  It is unavoidable and imperative that all people – professionals and paupers – investigate the value of indigenous theology and work towards their own salvation.


In Christ,

Rev. Jevon O. Neely

Can You Relate?

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Motherhood: Favourite Lunch Reciepes?

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Do you think I have time to prepare snacks like these to send to school?


But doesn't this look great?

If only I can get organized enough to write down all of the ingredients needed, get to the grocery store, make these snacks then teach my housekeeper how to do the same.

Yes I said it... housekeeper because remember I don't have the time but more importantly energy to make this every week.

Check out these lunchboxes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Clearly these were not packed by Married Working Mothers!!!!!!!!!!!
But oh how I aspire for my child's lunchbox to look like these. Where do I begin?

This is our first year with sending a lunch. In previous years Channing was a lunch ticket kind of kid! I wonder if we have bitten off more than we can chew by changing our habits and complicating our lives.

Are you packing a lunch like this for your child?  If you are like me here are some links to check out.

Lunch Recipe Ideas

How to get organized

Toddler Recipes

I think the key is getting off of my butt, stop watching football and get in the kitchen. There has to be an app for this!


Until I pack again,

GUEST BLOG: We Owe It To Saartjie

The crisis of being woman demands a truth and a call for spiritual healing and social renewal.  I submit the story of Saartjie Baartman as a contribution of and to truth.

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Saartjie (Sara) Baartman was born Khoisan (indigenous first people), in colonial South Africa in 1789 near the Great Fish River in Eastern Cape.  Before she left her homeland in South Africa in 1810 (at the age of 21) she worked as a slave for Dutch farmers.  The Khoisans were negatively labeled Hottentots (primitive form of humanity) by European settlers.
Hendrick Cezar, the brother of Baartman’s employer and Alexander Dunlop, a physician on a British Navy Ship took Baartman to London where the primary source of revenue for her owner was Baartman’s bare anatomy.  She was promised a share of the monies and thus a way to better her life (this is the same general manipulation of the female found in pornographic and strip-club industries today).  She was advertised as a human oddity.  She was placed on display for the eyes of European Elites (1810-1816).  This was the start of the reprehensible showing of her body in night clubs, circuses, colleges, and medical laboratories. Saartjie’s body was used to satisfy sexual fascinations about African women. 
In 1814 she was relocated to Paris, France where Henry Taylor exhibited her before passing her on to various owners including a zoo keeper.  Baartman died on January 1, 1816, miserable and six thousand miles away from her homeland.
After her death, Georges Cuvier performed the autopsy.  He dissected her body.  Her body parts, including her genitals and anus were placed in formaldehyde containers and were kept on display at Musee de l’Homme until 1976. 

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Numerous futile attempts were made to have Baartman’s remains brought back home to South Africa. It was Nelson Mandela, the President of a new and democratic South Africa (1994-1999) who reengaged the diplomatic conversations that led to the repatriation of Baartman’s remains to South Africa.  Baartman was finally buried and granted eternal rest on August 9, 2002. This was 186 years after her death.

I decided to retell the story of Saartjie Baartman for the following reasons.
Firstly, it informs us of the history of the Female Body, especially the Black Female Body as it was inferior and dominated by the powerful of that time. 
Secondly, the story provides an opportunity to compare women of today to Baartman. There is still a fixation on sex and the Female Body. There is still a disrespect of the sanctity of a female. Thirdly, this story can serve as a reminder of where we came from.  Baartman was subjected to this horrid lifestyle against her will. Nowadays, there are young women willfully engaging in similar lifestyles and doing it with pride.
Hopefully the story of Baartman will give women the power to make positive decisions. Saartjie could not make a choice for herself.
Women have a choice today!
 There is no prestige in dressing scantily, sexing for money and being a “Tip-Drill” (that is having dollar bills (tips) place in a G-String while dancing on a stage or a pole). The social identity of women is rudely redefined when damning vocabulary (bitch, hoe, slut and “cutta”) is used and made normal.  Sadly, these words are readily accepted and used by some females, and accepted without resistance.  That is a problem.
Then there is the abuse and adultery of women.  In some male and female minds it is a normal for women to be beaten on and cheated on.  There are some women who decide there is no other choice but to engage in promiscuity, monogamous promiscuity, and even acts of prostitution as a means of survival and economic empowerment.  These and other forms of women-hatred need to seriously be rethought and reenacted. 
Freedom of the woman must start with women!
Women must organize themselves to assist and rear the young in our communities.  Women owe it to Saartjie and the many others who have given their lives for our freedom to choose a better way of life.
Further to that, as a man and a father, men who are willing to be advocates must also take a stand. We are one human family, women and men, men and women.  It is imperative that we get involved in the process of female liberation and the creation of a more equal society.

For the Sacred Ancestors,
Jevon O. Neely
I wish to thank Mrs. Tiffany Hall and Mrs. Candilaria Thompson for this invitation to share.  I hope your efforts will continually have at its core a transformative will to inspire, empower and educate.
Rev. Jevon O. Neely is a proud Bahamian who studied at Williams Baptist College in Walnut Ridge, Arkansas, where in 2001 he earned a Bachelor’s Degree in Christian Ministries and a minor in Psychology.  In 2003, Rev. Neely enrolled at Candler School of Theology at Emory University in Atlanta, Georgia; where in 2006, he graduated with a Master of Divinity with a Certificate in Black Church Studies.
Rev. Neely’s foundations are in the Bahamian Baptist tradition.  He was ordained at Bethel Baptist Church on July 18th, 2004.  In 2010, Rev. Neely joined the Bahamas Conference of the Methodist Church (BCMC).  He serves as Chaplain at Queen’s College School, Minister at Ascension Methodist Church and a Lecturer of in the conference’s Center for Leadership, Education and Training (C-LET).  Rev. Neely is writing his first book The Black Bahamian Male set to be released the summer of 2014.

Rev. Neely is married to Mrs. Sandena O. Neely (nee Mortimer) and they have two wonderful children.  In his spare time he enjoys his family life, gardening, painting, reading and writing.



PART TWO: When Your Husband Doesn't Love You!

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Earlier this year during May I wrote on the topic 'MARRIAGE: When Your Husband Doesn't Love You'. For those of you who may not have read that specific post, I shared the details of my first marriage. I received a comment on the article. Please read the response below written by Anonymous. ( I have pasted it exactly as I received it.)

Anonymous said...
I was married to my beloved husband and we loved and cherished ourselves for good 2years and every thing was going on smoothly but june 29, 2013 we both had misunderstanding and he told me that the relationship is over and that he is fed up with me and I plead to him because I love him so much but he refused me I was so down I felt the world has come to an end for me but my friend told me about a spell caster that helped her sister out in getting her relationship back, a good job and favor in any of her endeavor but at first I was scared but I have to give this man a trial because I love my husband very much and I am not willing to loose him to any woman, so I ordered returning love spell from this great spell caster called Dr Orissa that made me a happy woman again to say it all my husband came back to me with much love and a caring heart...i am testifying to this great spell caster you are a great man in this world and you mean so much to me you are the best spell caster.

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Here is my response to Anonymous.

Dear Anonymous,

Thank you for your comment and your support. We all have to experience pain in order to develop our character. We both felt the pain of a man telling us they no longer wanted to be with us. One day I asked myself, "If this man does not want me, why do I want him? Why do I want someone who does not want me?" I eventually moved on. It seems as if you have had another reaction. In your comment you said your husband is back home. If I understand correctly, he has returned because of a 'returning love spell? You have cast a spell to make him return? To each his own, but if I may ask... would you want someone to do this to you? Supposed your husband casts a spell to make you go away? How would you feel? I must confess I believe in the Bible, I believe in the Bible's Golden Rule. Do unto others as you would want them to do unto you. Matthew 7:12. Does your husband know that you have placed a spell on him? If not, what do you think he would do if he found out? I know that you are happy your husband is at home but in your quiet moments, try to consider whether a marriage being held together by trickery is in fact a happy marriage. I believe you deserve an honest relationship. Your husband deserves one too whether that be with or without you.

My fellow readers, this was my response, not my immediate response but my official response. What are your thoughts? Let's talk ladies!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Until I respond again,

Are You Ready For Some Football?

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There are two types of women in this world... women who watch football and women who don't!

There are two types of women who watch football any given Sunday...women who know what offsides, first downs and punts are, women who know that Any Given Sunday is a football movie and then there are women who watch football at a Superbowl party, the type of women who talk instead of watching the game! ( Real football women hate the fake football females. Go watch Lifetime like you normally do instead of interrupting us during the Superbowl! Take your girlie pies, your casseroles and leave us with the nachos and the men! Sorry let me reel that back in!)

Which type of woman are you?

If you haven't guessed it by now I am a football girl. My husband met me like this. I don't do football because he does football, I do football because what sport is better?

Now I know MWMs has readers who play football. There is a vibrant female flag football league in our country. ALL HAIL TO YOU. "Great you are!" I aspire to your talent, teamwork and tenacity to tackle and score touchdowns!

(Touchdowns are the six points... nevermind, either you know or you don't!)

And so for those of us who watch the game, today is a great day. Today is the first sunday of the 2013-2014 NFL Football season. Thank goodness! Sundays are now about church and football.

Which team do I support? None! I know right!!!!!!!!!! 
I  just like to talk smack about all teams especially the mighty mighty worthless Miami Dolphins. 

As I type I am watching the Jets/ Bucs game. I have to confess I am a Geno Smith Fan. I want him to succeed, just like I want Vick to protect his body and win some games. I just like the game.

I know some of you do too!

To my women who miss their husbands on Sundays because they are somewhere watching a game, my advice to you is... I have none. Oh no, yes I do have some advice. DON'T PRETEND TO LIKE THE GAME IF YOU DON'T. Let your husband go watch the game, just make sure when he comes home he has something fun to come to or else he will stay out longer watching yet another game.

For those of you who want to learn the game, I will gladly teach you. Serious inquiries only!

Until I watch again, 


Today, I enjoyed a wonderful conch snack for lunch and will enjoy my favorite beverage later, vodka and club soda with lots of lime! Wine just won't cut it tonight. Lol.

It's almost 5:00pm! And you know what that means??? Soon time to get off and start your weekend!  YAY! What are you doing this Friday?!  This weekend??

Glad it's a Friday, Candilaria

Guest Blog: Split Personalities

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Have you ever looked at your kids and asked yourself "What was I thinking" or "Who fooled me...twice!!" 

Better yet, have you ever woke up wishing the kids were all grown up and no longer lived at home only to be kicked back to reality in the chin by little feet or morning breath in your face asking for cereal at 6a.m. on a Saturday morning?

I have been blessed with two beautiful girls, Raven is ten years old and Riley is two years old. Some of you may think "You did great, the older one can help with the baby" or "At least she can dress herself and make her bed"...Wrong, wrong wrong!!! 

These two little people are like opposing politicians in The House of Assembly. 

Raven has a strong personality, independent and always speaks her mind. I constantly have to remind her of who is the parent and who is the child. Riley is very clingy, a cry baby and a trouble maker!! Oh did I mention she's still nursing?!?! Yes, at two and a half years old with a mouth full of teeth!! Is it okay when your child tells you "Mommy lay down, want boobies"?!?!?! I don't think so!!  Raven weaned herself at nine months old but at this rate...I think I'm going to have to send my left breast to college. 

Presently I'm having the "P" talk with both my girls...The dreaded "Period" and the "Potty" talk; imagine that!! Okay picture this...We're  driving in a shoebox size car, one's screaming her head off because she wants to watch Dora for the 100th time on the portable dvd player and the other one is screaming "Pull over, let me out, can't watch another Dora show!" I'm holding my head and singing "99 bottle of beer on the wall"...trying not to loose my mind.

Having an eight year gap definitely has it challenges, no two days are the same but I wouldn't change a single thing about my girls. They are the love of my life. Even though they are as different as night and day, they do have one thing in common... me! I see myself in both of them. Having said that, what does that say about me... Am I a schizo?!?! Can any of you other MWMs relate to my "split personalities"?!?! 

Written By:
Natasha Nixon

I am thirty-three years old and I’ve been married for eight years. I have two beautiful daughters and a dog. I’m very religious, grew up in a Pentecostal church but I now study the Anglican faith. By profession, I’m a Property Manager to high end clients. My motto to my kids are “Do onto others as you have them do onto you”. I love being a wife and mom wouldn’t change anything in my world!!