Candilaria's 2013 Year In Review...

As 2013 comes to a close, I sat and pondered about the entire year and all the experiences...

I think my memory is worse than I thought!  I could hardly remember. Yikes! I think I will chalk it up to the year whizzing pass too quickly.  That's my story and I'm sticking to it.

Here is my 2013 Year in Review...

1.  Celebrated Tiffany's 40th Birthday! (almost time to celebrate again!)

2.  Traveled to San Diego (a place I'd never been)

3.  Celebrated my brother Kareem's 40th Birthday (awesome party)

4.  Celebrated 5 years of marriage (the jury is still out on whether it's been husband is gonna read that.  Love you babes! :))

5.  The kids and I went to Orlando (Disney World will not be seeing me for the next 5 years at least!)

6.  I got to see my very best friends from College, April & Janell (although brief, was super excited about that)

7.  Became a bit more organized (at least I would like to think so)

8.  Aindreas got a brand new hairstyle (which we absolutely love but now I have another haircut bill)

9.  Married Working Mothers really took off in March 2013 (ending the year with 23,741 page views, help us get to 24,000 before the new year!)

10.  Spent countless and endless days in my parent's pool during the summer

11.  Started half killing training myself for the Half Marathon (for January 19th, 2014, my goal is just to finish)

12. Took up boxing, Laila Ali here I come (Got a little hard mouth because she will never read this)

13. I started meditating (really I just started breathing instead of hyperventilating when I get upset)

**My OCD will not allow me to end on number 13, so therefore I HAVE to add one more to make it even.**

14.  I honestly can't think of anything but just couldn't stand to see my year in review end on the number 13...giggles and slides the left

For 2014, I will place a jar where I can see it everyday, and whenever something great or not so great happens to me I will write it on a piece of paper and put it in the jar.  At the end of 2014 I will be able to go through all the scraps of paper and hopefully it will make writing a year end review a lot easier. Yes, please feel free to use this idea as well.

How was your 2013? Can you even remember? What will you do differently in 2014?  Do you make New Year's resolutions?  Have you written your goals down on paper?!  If not, I highly recommend that you do and put it somewhere you can see it daily.  The likelihood of you tackling those goals head on increases tremendously when you do.


Just Go Pee Already...

Pure Randomness...

My 3 year old insists on holding in his tinkle until it becomes so urgent that he starts dancing and prancing his backside around the house screaming and crying with a terrified expression on his face because he's about to let it rip.  

Dude, just go pee! 

Why is that so hard?! He will find everything else to do and will straight up ignore my yelling at him to go and relieve himself.  I asked the 6 year old to please go and turn the light on for him (assuming he isn't going because it's dark) and all I received was a lecture with whining and crying about how she is "always the one to help him." blah blah blah blah...Oh, give me a break!  Go and turn the light on so the boy can pee!!!  Let's not go down the list of things I have to do for YOU!

My kids wake up every morning with this very same plot....I'm telling you this is true...

I'm not into cleaning up a 3 year old's tinkle, Candilaria  :)

Post Christmas Post...

Happy Holidays!

I thoroughly enjoyed being home, off from my other full-time job, for Christmas and Boxing day.  But let me tell ya, after those two days, Friday December 27th couldn't come quick enough.  Yes, I went back to work. I had to come up for a breather. LOL. 

BUT I already miss it...

We cooked. We laughed. We yelled. We watched movies. We drank hot chocolate/tea. We bickered. We sang. We danced. We created a mess. We were lazy. We made our living room into a Winter in Wonderland (which the kids are still living in by the way. They can't seem to leave). We went to the Carnival. Celebrated my Birthday. We drove around to see Christmas lights. And we visited family...  

Overall, we had a blast.

Asia and Aindreas at the Carnival

Our beautiful Christmas tree that the kids decorated.

The night before, baking cookies for Santa, maybe?

Christmas Morning

Hey Aindreas, that present is bigger than you!

They didn't peek, but they certainly tortured the poor gifts

Someone is happy about the gift she is opening

Birthday Breakfast Brunch (December 22)

How was your Christmas? And what did you do?

Can't believe my most favorite time of the year is just about over, Candilaria

Name 3 Things You Cannot Live Without...

Can you...

For me...

1.  unconditional love
2.  my family/people I love dearly
3.  alcohol...I need my alcohol which helps me with my sanity...LOL

What are yours?

A work in progress, Candilaria

Marriage: I Picked Well!

Eric and I 

It's Thursday morning, December 19th, 2013 and with all certainty I can say that I picked well.

Eric has and continues to be the best teammate I could ever ask for.

His shoulders are wide, his grip is secure, his feet are planted and his heart is in our marriage.

I know I am a piece of work at times...once a month for sure but somehow this man is there for me...Tiffany.

Did I see his honour when we were dating? Yes!
Did I feel his loyalty to our relationship? Yes I did!
Did I believe his character was authentic? Absolutely!

I married Eric because life is hard, the struggle is real, but he is the best man I know. I will walk with him. I will run with him. I will pant with him. I will celebrate with him. I may pout, complain, moan and whine while I do but I still choose Eric.

Yes there are moments where the single life is tempting, but this man, what he adds to my life is so much more.

This morning while internet surfing, I glanced upon this link on the Msn Homepage. As I read it, I realized that I need to do more in my marriage. I need to be to Eric what Eric is to me. I want him to feel as he makes me feel.

Click on the link. It's an easy read. It won't take you more than seven minutes. Maybe this will inspire you too!

Until I blog again,

The 10 habits that keep marriages strong

Is Anyone Else Tired?

Channing's List

This past weekend I had every intention to blog. I had so many ideas about what I could write a post about after watching Scandal and The Best Man Holiday.

Saturday came and went.
Sunday came and went.

Yesterday was Monday. Back at work I just knew I could muster my creative juices to produce a post. Never happened. I worked all day at work. Imagine that!

Gotta write on Monday night. Easy. I have the ideas, just need to get to the computer.

Never happened!

Instead, Channing wanted to write another Santa List. I could not tell my four year old 'no' so I assisted her in creating this list. 

Great! but what about my post? 

I am full of ideas but empty of energy!

Until I get some energy,


Happy Tuesday!

Because it is #givingtuesday, the Thompson family's activity for today is to give someone a big hug.  You never know who is in need of one and how it will make them feel.

It's not about the presents and what you can do for people, it's about how you make people feel!  Spending time with your family and friends is priceless!

So from us to you...

Have a great day today and know that you are awesome and someone loves you more than anything!

MWMs Management

Just A Reminder

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This serves as a reminder for you and me. 

Get an annual check up!

I always have mine done at the end of the year. I turned 40 so mammograms are on the menu for me as well.

Ladies, it is what it is! Yes we are busy, but just do it! Pap smears, mammograms, blood tests are all so vital.

Be Proactive! 

Make an appointment today. 
I confess I keep forgetting to make my appointment but no more. If you see me today please ask..."Tiffany, did you make your appointment?" What are friends for. Make me accountable for my benefit as well as my family.

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Until I blog again,


Soon it will be Friday night,
Let's decide to try with all our might,
To drop everything and make the decision
To join MWMs for some cocktails and conversation.

We will be meeting at Twisted Lime Restaurant & Sports Bar @ 6:30p.m. located in the Sandy Port Marina Village.

First five ladies receive your first Mojito on MWMs!


Nelson Mandela, 1918-2013
The former South African President and anti-apartheid icon, Nelson Mandela has died at the age of 95.

This giant of a man dedicated his life to the world, fought for freedom, dignity, equality, and strength through his actions and words.  What an inspiration to everyone around the globe.  

As President Obama expressed, "We will probably never see the likes of a person like [Mandela] again."  I couldn't have said it any better.

Rest In Peace Mr. Mandela.


So I'm on my way to wax my legs....


Why do we have to endure such rituals!  (Unless you are one of those lucky women that don't have to deal with it!).  It really is another chore for most women. I don't like shaving, 1. Because I would have to do it too often and 2.  I like areas to be extra smoooooth.

On days like these, I have a mind to walk around with hairy legs just to avoid the pain of waxing. And if I catch someone taking a disgusted glimpse at my gorilla looking legs, I would say "Yeah, that's right...they are hairy, but I don't care!  This is me. What you ga say about it?" hee hee.  Yea right!


It's 4:41pm on a Monday afternoon. I am tired. I have about an hour or so before my husband gets home. About an hour or so after that after the kids have been put to bed at some point I will be a wife. My husband will give me a certain look or a certain touch, or he will close our bedroom door to signify his desire...his desire to have sex.

Yes I am going to talk about this...the big three letter word...SEX!

Is quantity better than quality? 
Is it better to have lots of average sex or better to have less but off-da-chain-sex?
Is it better to have lots of sex or make love every so often?

Here is why I ask.

I don't know about the rest of you but I am tired. I would love to welcome my husband home wearing nothing else but these...

instead of these...

but tonight that's all I want to put on my feet. I have been in heels all day! I tired man!

Believe it or not, I never, okay my husband reads this blog so let me be honest, I rarely say no to sex. Me? Say no? Hell no? I am a wife for goodness sake. I will get in his desired position and do my endeavor best to please him and bless his heart he is satisfied but that's just it I know he is satisfied but not fulfilled.

Why is he satisfied but not fulfilled... because I really go through the motions, easily three times a week. Every now again I make a noise but I am not as I was before children! There I said it, and I know I am not the only one!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hence I it better that he gets lots of sex, ordinary, hurry-up-already sex or should I be holding back and gear up for some hanging-off-the-chandelier-sex?

Is anyone having hanging from a chandelier sex? I mean really? Who does this? Wouldn't you fall? Or break something you spent plenty money on? Okay sorry focus Tiffany!!!!!

So yes, I want to be spontaneous and luxurious. Honestly I do, but HELLOOOOOOO, I WORK!!!!!!!!!!!!

Maybe if I was a work-at-home-take-a-nap-whenever-I-want wife or a stay- at-home wife I could be energized to be a sex goddess but I ain't gat it tonight!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Instead of looking like this tonight..."Oh I love you, I am so ready to please you especially because this drink is so good. I am primed and ready!"

I feel like...

"Just pretend sleep Tiff and he will take pity and let you rest!" Ladies it is what it is. 

The problem is though, there are many women out there who are ready for whatever! There is a nineteen, twenty year old girl right now who doesn't know it, but she will attract the attention of my husband during his mid life crisis. I need to start preparing for that phase of marriage. I have heard enough stories of husbands who leave wives for women way younger than their wives. 


That means I need to put on those same high heeled shoes I posted above and shake it like a salt shaker.

Jesus Lord, where am I going to get that energy from?????

Until I blog again,

P.S. I gotta go with what I got, I am going to kill him with quantity and purposefully throw in a lap dance or striptease once a month! Jokes! If I don't do it, somebody will!