"In case there is a loss in cabin pressure, yellow oxygen masks will deploy from the ceiling compartment located above you. To secure, pull the mask towards you, secure the elastic strap to your head, and fasten it so it covers your mouth and nose. Breathe normally. Even if the bag does not inflate, please keep in mind that oxygen is flowing. Please make sure to secure your own mask before assisting others."
These few sentences are a part of an airline's pre-flight safety demonstration. Let's focus on the last sentence and most important portion of this entire paragraph: “Please make sure to secure your own mask before assisting others.” What, you might ask, does this have to do with a blog for MWMs? Let me share my thoughts with you.
As MWMs, sight is often lost of the fact that we are also women, truth be told, that is all that we really are at our core. We are WOMEN - women who happen to be Married, who happen to be Working and who also happen to be Mothers. These are some pretty heavy roles and we are courageous for wearing so many hats (please pop your collar at this point).
Securing our masks before assisting others is important and as MWMs we often spend ourselves assisting everyone else and often times we neglect to secure or own proverbial mask. What do I mean by this? And how do we secure everyone else's mask first? We take time to focus on the needs of our immediate family, the house, the dog, the cat, our parents, our in-laws, our church family, our coworkers, our friends, our various civic and community groups, and the list goes on and on. We ensure that everyone else's mask is secured first, before ours. And then we look around for our masks when we are already dog tired and unable to assist ourselves.
How many of us really take time to focus on resting, relaxing and rejuvenating our bodies (and by rest I don't just mean sleep),.
Inspired by Tiffany’s staycation and empowered by my loving husband, Jevon – I decided to plan my very own staycation so that I can “adorn the mask first”. YES! I decided that I should take time out for me – to rest, to relax and to rejuvenate and I did just that.
This is my bag I packed then proceeded to run out of the house with before I changed my mind.
Driving to the Hilton, nervous and anxious but forging ahead nonetheless…
One weekend a few weeks ago I nervously packed my bags and even more nervously checked into the British Colonial Hilton Hotel BY MYSELF. Nervously because this was the first time that I had ever done anything like this and I run guilt trips on myself – if you can believe that! The random thoughts going through my mind on the Friday evening and into Saturday morning were “I should be home with my family” or “maybe my husband should’ve come with me” or “how are they making it without me”. Needless to say, once I was able to relax and sit by the beach and soak in the experience – I … was … fine. And you know what? My family was okay. They held down the fort. They were okay. And so was I.
I thoroughly enjoyed my staycation and would encourage anyone who feels the need to rest, relax and rejuvenate to “adorn the mask first”. It is a gift. And I am all the better for it.
I left the hotel that Sunday morning, feeling refreshed, reinvigorated and reenergized. And this is all because I took the time to first adorn the mask to myself which enabled and continues to enable me to adorn the mask to others around me.
The lesson for me in all of this was that I now know and accept that I too need to be taken care of and that there are times - even though my husband and family do an awesome job of taking care of me - that we really need to take care of ourselves, for ourselves.
So I have since committed to setting aside pockets of time each week – just for me. And my family loves me for it!!! And I love me too!!!